Are You Asking Yourself the Right Questions?
Are you asking yourself the right questions ? I wasn’t.
Have you ever been in a room full of people who were motivated, enthusiastic, fun, and supportive? How did that feel? Wonderful, right? And what happened when you got home? How long were you able to sustain those feelings? And if you weren’t able to sustain those feelings, did you feel like you were a failure? Did you feel like something was missing? Did you have more questions than answers? I’ve been in that situation many times where eve…
Three Little Words
Three Little Words...
I love you. I forgive you. Keep it simple. What's your wish. Can I help? Dare to dream. It's not fair.
Those last three little words will stop us every time.
How many times do we use those three little words? Maybe we don’t verbalize them, but only think them. Does that make them any less lethal?
It’s not fair I work so hard but don’t make very much money.
It’s not fair that I work harder and longer than him and he makes more than I do.
It’s not fair that the rich…
Self-Doubt and Self-Sabotage are BFFs
Do you have days when life feels like work?
Days when you wonder if you’ll ever achieve your goals? Days when you think you shouldn’t want so much? Days when you nearly talk yourself out of wanting more? If so, you’re not alone.
Do you sometimes wonder if your self-doubt is sabotaging your dreams? Do you have a tendency to avoid looking at (or thinking about) ideas or beliefs which are uncomfortable? Do you secretly hope your insecurities will magically disappear if you ignore them long en…
The Downside of Hiding Your Feelings
I used to be a master at hiding my feelings. How about you?
Of course I’m referring those feelings that society tells us are negative or bad: anger, resentment, jealousy, pride, shame, guilt, selfishness, and sadness.
I also hid any feelings that revealed my sensitive nature because I was taught that those feelings showed weakness and vulnerability.
The problem with hiding those feelings was that ALL of my feelings got diminished as well, even joy, exhilaration, excitement, appreciation, grat…
Life Without Guilt or Shame
I love getting emails in response to my blogs (yes, yes…it seems like I’m still looking for that external validation!). One person recently emailed me and beautifully clarified what I mean when I talk about self-care: self-care is all about self-love, self-respect, self-value, self-worth, self-compassion, and honoring who you really are!
And that’s my entire message and my work in the world. It’s my honor, privilege (and secret sauce) to help you reconnect and remember the amazing, awes…
3 Ideas for Putting Yourself First
You know how it is.
When you have something on your mind or are really focused, then things that align with what you’re thinking show up. All.The.Time. (Gee, could there be something about the Law of Attraction in this experience?)
This month I’ve been focusing on self-care and putting yourself first. So, I’ve been writing blogs, creating a new 5-day mini eCourse (email), putting together a new Self-Care Daily Planner freebie, and I plan on having a short masterclass next month. That’s been th…
Self-Care is Not Selfish
It seems to me that ‘self-care’ is an emotionally charged concept or buzzword.
It’s only two simple 4-letter words: self and care. Yet those two words conjure up images and emotions just by reading them (or thinking about them.) And there’s even something called ‘radical self-care.’
I’ll admit that when I first heard the term ‘self-care’ I was turned off by it. Who had time for that? Not me! I was visualizing only self-indulgent activities like bubble baths, spa days, and massages.
Success Made Easy
Okay, that headline got your attention, right? We all seem to want that “magic bullet” or the 3 Simple Steps to Success or the 4 Laws of Prosperity. Maybe we’d even accept a 7-step process. What if it was 149 steps? Would we still be interested? What if I told you it was hard? How would you feel? Or maybe you already think it’s hard to be a success or to be happy or to actually live the life you dream about. After all, we all have bills to pay, right?
When I look back at all of the classes, sem…
The Power of Big Dreams
“Life is short, live bold! Be heard, be you, dream big, take risks, don’t wait.” ~ Misty Gibbs
I’ve been thinking a lot about big dreams lately.
Growing up, I was never encouraged to dream big. My parents didn’t dream big – I think they were just trying to do the best they could. For them, success was owning a home, having a steady job, and taking occasional family vacations.
I think my dad’s big dreams involved me; he wanted me to be a doctor or a lawyer. That was his dream. I just wanted t…
From Numbness to Awesomeness
When I am numb, it’s nearly impossible to be motivated or to succeed.
The trouble is that I was numb for most of my life. I was numb to my real feelings of anger, frustration, resentment, self-doubt, fear, shame, and guilt. I was told over and over again that those feelings were wrong and I needed to overcome them. But no one taught me how to overcome them. So I did what I knew how to do: I shoved them down, I buried them, and I pretended they didn’t exist. And I ate.
And yet, the few times…
2020, You Threw me a Curveball
And I have to admit, I didn’t always take this change in plans with a grin and a shoulder shrug (at least not at first). After all, I had big plans for the summer: season tickets to see 15 minor league baseball games, season tickets for the Coeur d’Alene Summer The…
To make matters worse, suddenly three strangers show up. What does he do? He run…