Good Enough, Competent, or Awesome?
If I said to you, “you didn’t come here to be good enough, or competent, or mediocre - - you came here to be AWESOME,” would you believe me?
Sometimes we get caught up with what other people think we should do or how other people think we should behave that we bury our own essence to play by someone else’s rules. This is a losing (not to mention soul-sucking) proposition for us.
There is something that lights you up. There is something that turns you on. There is something that is meant just f…
Like Driving Through Fog
Have you ever felt stuck?
Maybe you’ve read the books, poured over articles on the internet, or asked everyone you knew, “what’s next?” Maybe you know all about goal setting and affirmations, yet you find yourself repeating the same patterns or doubting you’ll ever reach your goals and dreams and doubting you'll ever live an aligned life. Does any of that sound familiar?
Most of us want to get from Point A to Point B in a nice straight line. Forget about ‘life being a journey’ – we want to g…
You Need to Get Off Your Duff!
Stop Resisting and Start Moving!
That’s what I’ve been telling myself for the past few months. Oh, I’m doing a lot of ‘moving’ and keeping busy. I’m busy creating 5-day mini courses (did I mention my new self-professed title is “Queen of the 5-Day Mini Course”?). I’m busy going to baseball games. I’m busy researching hikes to take on my upcoming vacation. I’m busy calling contractors for my home improvement projects.
But I’m not busy making any videos. I’m not busy stepping into my power as an…
You Get to Decide
Who doesn’t love to stay in their comfort zone?
Even when we want to experience more success or more love or more health or more joy, we also want to remain comfortable – and we don’t want to make the wrong choice.
Has this ever happened to you? You may have wanted another job, but you stayed comfortable and then got fired. You were ready to move out of a current relationship, but you stayed comfortable and then the other person left. Ouch. Blindsided.
We need to be w…
What Should You Expect?
I remember it as clearly as if it happened yesterday.
A couple of years ago I attended a chamber mixer and I had an expectation that I would win one of the raffle prizes - - and I did! A friend of mine asked if I really had an expectation of winning or if I was just hopeful.
That question caused me to really think about what I felt at that particular chamber mixer compared to all of the others I attended. And I could feel a difference. I actually did expect to win something. In fact, I was qu…
Picasso's Foundational Key to Success
Have you ever tricked yourself into thinking you were taking action when you weren’t?
Maybe you’re doing more research? Maybe you’re taking just one more course? Maybe you’re busy thinking about the right action to take? Maybe you’re staying open to listening to your inner wisdom so you’ll know what your next inspired step is?
I know I’ve fooled myself into thinking I was taking action when I was actually avoiding making a decision. Don’t get me wrong, I’m the first to say that ‘taking action’…
Blastoff Can be Harder than Expected
Change your thinking, change your life. On your mark….get set…go!
What? You haven’t changed yet? How can that be? Changing those pesky habitual thoughts is a bit trickier than we anticipate and many of us give up in frustration. And guess what? When we do, our internal mind chatter (our constant companion, “monkey mind”) is happy.
So, even though our internal mind chatter might be happy, we most definitely are NOT! The very thoughts we want to change are in our heads before we even realize …
Bounce Back to a Better Normal
Can you feel it?
I can feel the excitement, anticipation, and expectation as we head into July 2021. After 15 months of social distancing, masking, and staying safe in our home cocoons, things are opening up.
I have friends who are flying to visit family and friends. My season tickets to my local minor league baseball team have been activated. I’m attending several concerts this summer. We are bouncing back and ready to resume and embrace life as it was prior to COVID-19.
And I also have some…
Are You Asking Yourself the Right Questions?
Are you asking yourself the right questions ? I wasn’t.
Have you ever been in a room full of people who were motivated, enthusiastic, fun, and supportive? How did that feel? Wonderful, right? And what happened when you got home? How long were you able to sustain those feelings? And if you weren’t able to sustain those feelings, did you feel like you were a failure? Did you feel like something was missing? Did you have more questions than answers? I’ve been in that situation many times where eve…
Three Little Words
Three Little Words...
I love you. I forgive you. Keep it simple. What's your wish. Can I help? Dare to dream. It's not fair.
Those last three little words will stop us every time.
How many times do we use those three little words? Maybe we don’t verbalize them, but only think them. Does that make them any less lethal?
It’s not fair I work so hard but don’t make very much money.
It’s not fair that I work harder and longer than him and he makes more than I do.
It’s not fair that the rich…
Self-Doubt and Self-Sabotage are BFFs
Do you have days when life feels like work?
Days when you wonder if you’ll ever achieve your goals? Days when you think you shouldn’t want so much? Days when you nearly talk yourself out of wanting more? If so, you’re not alone.
Do you sometimes wonder if your self-doubt is sabotaging your dreams? Do you have a tendency to avoid looking at (or thinking about) ideas or beliefs which are uncomfortable? Do you secretly hope your insecurities will magically disappear if you ignore them long en…
The Downside of Hiding Your Feelings
I used to be a master at hiding my feelings. How about you?
Of course I’m referring those feelings that society tells us are negative or bad: anger, resentment, jealousy, pride, shame, guilt, selfishness, and sadness.
I also hid any feelings that revealed my sensitive nature because I was taught that those feelings showed weakness and vulnerability.
The problem with hiding those feelings was that ALL of my feelings got diminished as well, even joy, exhilaration, excitement, appreciation, grat…
Life Without Guilt or Shame
I love getting emails in response to my blogs (yes, yes…it seems like I’m still looking for that external validation!). One person recently emailed me and beautifully clarified what I mean when I talk about self-care: self-care is all about self-love, self-respect, self-value, self-worth, self-compassion, and honoring who you really are!
And that’s my entire message and my work in the world. It’s my honor, privilege (and secret sauce) to help you reconnect and remember the amazing, awes…
3 Ideas for Putting Yourself First
You know how it is.
When you have something on your mind or are really focused, then things that align with what you’re thinking show up. All.The.Time. (Gee, could there be something about the Law of Attraction in this experience?)
This month I’ve been focusing on self-care and putting yourself first. So, I’ve been writing blogs, creating a new 5-day mini eCourse (email), putting together a new Self-Care Daily Planner freebie, and I plan on having a short masterclass next month. That’s been th…
Self-Care is Not Selfish
It seems to me that ‘self-care’ is an emotionally charged concept or buzzword.
It’s only two simple 4-letter words: self and care. Yet those two words conjure up images and emotions just by reading them (or thinking about them.) And there’s even something called ‘radical self-care.’
I’ll admit that when I first heard the term ‘self-care’ I was turned off by it. Who had time for that? Not me! I was visualizing only self-indulgent activities like bubble baths, spa days, and massages.
Reasons to Put Yourself First
The idea of putting myself first was about as appealing as getting a root canal.
My internal mind chatter told me it was selfish. I was worried about how other people would react if I changed my ways and started saying no or enforced some personal boundaries. I wondered if people wouldn’t like me anymore. Or if they’d get angry (and of course, I avoided conflict at all costs!).
So with all of this fear, worry, and negative self-talk going on, it took me quite a while to even take that first s…
Why We Put Ourselves Last
I don’t want my life to be on hold, do you?
My life used to be on hold. I happily (or so I thought) put my own dreams and desires on hold and adopted the dreams, desires, and goals of my husband. And society. I didn’t question what success and happiness was for me. I just assumed it was about money, career, possessions, and snazzy vacations. After all, who didn’t want to live that ‘American Dream?’
And when living the American Dream left me empty, unfulfilled, and discontent, I assumed I neede…
Success Made Easy
Okay, that headline got your attention, right? We all seem to want that “magic bullet” or the 3 Simple Steps to Success or the 4 Laws of Prosperity. Maybe we’d even accept a 7-step process. What if it was 149 steps? Would we still be interested? What if I told you it was hard? How would you feel? Or maybe you already think it’s hard to be a success or to be happy or to actually live the life you dream about. After all, we all have bills to pay, right?
When I look back at all of the classes, sem…
From the Basement to the Penthouse
I live in Spokane where it’s very cold in the winter. The house stays closed up during the winter, and when Spring arrives, the windows fly open and the house gets a breath of fresh air!
We all need fresh air and fresh ideas. Spring seems like it’s in full bloom. I love when nature wakes up from its winter slumber. It always reminds me to wake up from my slumber, too. I get to ask myself, ‘What have I been asleep to?” “What have I closed my eyes to?” “What wants to blossom within me?”
The Truth about Procrastination
Procrastination Kills Productivity
No surprise there!
I’ve done my own survey and asked people why they don’t do what they say they want to do. I was surprised that the #1 answer was…………
I DON’T HAVE TIME!
Okay, maybe I wasn’t all that surprised because that’s my #1 answer, too! This has been my excuse and I was able to point to my schedule to prove to myself (and everyone else) why it was true. I just didn’t think it would be such a common excuse. The funny thing is (and it’s not really …
It's Time to Ask for what you Want
Do you ask for what you want? Or do you ask for what you think you can have?
These questions have come up quite a bit in my life lately. They’ve come up during my Free Sessions, during a workshop I recently attended, from a mentor who posted on Facebook, and even on a call I had a couple of weeks ago with my study partner.
So many of us are afraid to dream big, to ask for what we want, to state our desire, to cut our moorings loose and allow ourselves to shine. Where have our dreams and desir…