Easing into Change
I woke up to snow on November 4.
I finally turned on my furnace a little bit before then. I can no longer hang onto hopes of warm weather and it’s time for me to embrace change once again. And not only embrace a change in the weather, but a personal change as well.
How do you react to change? We know change is inevitable. We even say, “the only constant is change.” And yet, when change comes, it can be hard. We’re not prepared. We don’t like it. We fight against it. We don’t feel like we’re …
Hello, I'm Janet. Who are you?
It takes an enormous amount of energy to try to be someone you’re not.
Who are you? Your true self - your AUTHENTIC self - longs to come out and reveal herself (or himself) to the world. The downside of keeping your authentic self in hiding is that it ultimately results in pain: spiritual pain, emotional pain, relationship pain, or even physical pain.
Most of us spend our entire lives avoiding pain, criticism, and rejection. We think by pretending to be something (or someone) we’re not, we’l…
What's Keeping You Stuck?
Many of us have a secret belief that we never share with others.
What is this secret belief? The belief that we are not good enough or not deserving of love or that something’s wrong with us. We may ‘consciously’ know it isn’t true, but sometimes (dare I say often?) we’ll get triggered and then that hidden belief ends up running the show and then we act as if it were true.
What does an “I’m not good enough” behavior look like when you get triggered? Well…..
- You don’t speak up when you’…
The Energy of Desire
You are the Expert on YOU
Isn’t it time you listened to your own wisdom?
Sometimes I actually read what I write . Well, I read it again! And after re-reading my blogs from last two weeks, I said to myself, “Self, I can’t believe you wrote that! What sort of mixed messages are you sending?”
Let me tell you why I was shocked and stupefied. My last blog said this: We get afraid when all we focus on is the outcome and the subtext is don’t focus on the outcome; instead focus on smaller steps.
And in my blog before that,…
It's Time for Some Shedding
Autumn is here!
For many people this is their favorite time of year. The warm days of summer begin to cool and the landscape turns gorgeous shades of orange and red. I didn't get much autumn color change in the 10 years I lived in Sedona, but here in the inland northwest, I'm treated to a symphony of color daily. And as I drive the familiar streets regularly, I take notice how the orange and red hues get deeper and darker each day.
For me, autumn brings other things to mind as well. As the se…
Life Without Guilt or Shame
I love getting emails in response to my blogs (yes, yes…it seems like I’m still looking for that external validation!). One person recently emailed me and beautifully clarified what I mean when I talk about self-care: self-care is all about self-love, self-respect, self-value, self-worth, self-compassion, and honoring who you really are!
And that’s my entire message and my work in the world. It’s my honor, privilege (and secret sauce) to help you reconnect and remember the amazing, awes…
3 Ideas for Putting Yourself First
You know how it is.
When you have something on your mind or are really focused, then things that align with what you’re thinking show up. All.The.Time. (Gee, could there be something about the Law of Attraction in this experience?)
This month I’ve been focusing on self-care and putting yourself first. So, I’ve been writing blogs, creating a new 5-day mini eCourse (email), putting together a new Self-Care Daily Planner freebie, and I plan on having a short masterclass next month. That’s been th…
Self-Care is Not Selfish
It seems to me that ‘self-care’ is an emotionally charged concept or buzzword.
It’s only two simple 4-letter words: self and care. Yet those two words conjure up images and emotions just by reading them (or thinking about them.) And there’s even something called ‘radical self-care.’
I’ll admit that when I first heard the term ‘self-care’ I was turned off by it. Who had time for that? Not me! I was visualizing only self-indulgent activities like bubble baths, spa days, and massages.
Reasons to Put Yourself First
The idea of putting myself first was about as appealing as getting a root canal.
My internal mind chatter told me it was selfish. I was worried about how other people would react if I changed my ways and started saying no or enforced some personal boundaries. I wondered if people wouldn’t like me anymore. Or if they’d get angry (and of course, I avoided conflict at all costs!).
So with all of this fear, worry, and negative self-talk going on, it took me quite a while to even take that first s…
Why We Put Ourselves Last
I don’t want my life to be on hold, do you?
My life used to be on hold. I happily (or so I thought) put my own dreams and desires on hold and adopted the dreams, desires, and goals of my husband. And society. I didn’t question what success and happiness was for me. I just assumed it was about money, career, possessions, and snazzy vacations. After all, who didn’t want to live that ‘American Dream?’
And when living the American Dream left me empty, unfulfilled, and discontent, I assumed I neede…
It's Time to Ask for what you Want
Do you ask for what you want? Or do you ask for what you think you can have?
These questions have come up quite a bit in my life lately. They’ve come up during my Free Sessions, during a workshop I recently attended, from a mentor who posted on Facebook, and even on a call I had a couple of weeks ago with my study partner.
So many of us are afraid to dream big, to ask for what we want, to state our desire, to cut our moorings loose and allow ourselves to shine. Where have our dreams and desir…
Are You Bullying Yourself?
I’ve been trying a lot of new things these days.
One of the major ones is pivoting from predominantly one-on-one and in person guidance to having more of an online presence. And the new things involve trying out (and learning) a lot of new technology.
Now, I consider myself a quick learner, but this has taken quite a bit longer than I anticipated. And while I’m loving creating the content, making slides, and designing workbooks, I’m not loving writing out scripts or managing all of the moving…