Blogs about mindset, beliefs, self-sabotage, the excuses we make, and debunking the lies we tell ourselves!


2021.07.29 Expectations

What Should You Expect?

I remember it as clearly as if it happened yesterday.

A couple of years ago I attended a chamber mixer and I had an expectation that I would win one of the raffle prizes - - and I did! A friend of mine asked if I really had an expectation of winning or if I was just hopeful.

That question caused me to really think about what I felt at that particular chamber mixer compared to all of the others I attended. And I could feel a difference. I actually did expect to win something. In fact, I was qu…

2021.07.22 Action

Picasso's Foundational Key to Success

Have you ever tricked yourself into thinking you were taking action when you weren’t?

Maybe you’re doing more research? Maybe you’re taking just one more course? Maybe you’re busy thinking about the right action to take? Maybe you’re staying open to listening to your inner wisdom so you’ll know what your next inspired step is?

I know I’ve fooled myself into thinking I was taking action when I was actually avoiding making a decision. Don’t get me wrong, I’m the first to say that ‘taking action’…


Blastoff Can be Harder than Expected

Change your thinking, change your life. On your mark….get set…go! 

What? You haven’t changed yet? How can that be? Changing those pesky habitual thoughts is a bit trickier than we anticipate and many of us give up in frustration. And guess what? When we do, our internal mind chatter (our constant companion, “monkey mind”) is happy.

So, even though our internal mind chatter might be happy, we most definitely are NOT!  The very thoughts we want to change are in our heads before we even realize …

2021.07.08 Bounce Back

Bounce Back to a Better Normal

Can you feel it?

I can feel the excitement, anticipation, and expectation as we head into July 2021. After 15 months of social distancing, masking, and staying safe in our home cocoons, things are opening up.

I have friends who are flying to visit family and friends. My season tickets to my local minor league baseball team have been activated. I’m attending several concerts this summer. We are bouncing back and ready to resume and embrace life as it was prior to COVID-19.

And I also have some…

2021.06.24 Life is Fair

Three Little Words

Three Little Words...

I love you. I forgive you. Keep it simple. What's your wish. Can I help? Dare to dream. It's not fair.

Those last three little words will stop us every time.

How many times do we use those three little words? Maybe we don’t verbalize them, but only think them. Does that make them any less lethal?

It’s not fair I work so hard but don’t make very much money.

It’s not fair that I work harder and longer than him and he makes more than I do.

It’s not fair that the rich…

2021.06.17 Self-Doubt

Self-Doubt and Self-Sabotage are BFFs

Do you have days when life feels like work? 

Days when you wonder if you’ll ever achieve your goals?  Days when you think you shouldn’t want so much? Days when you nearly talk yourself out of wanting more? If so, you’re not alone.

Do you sometimes wonder if your self-doubt is sabotaging your dreams? Do you have a tendency to avoid looking at (or thinking about) ideas or beliefs which are uncomfortable?  Do you secretly hope your insecurities will magically disappear if you ignore them long en…

2021.06.10 Come Out of Hiding

The Downside of Hiding Your Feelings

I used to be a master at hiding my feelings. How about you?

Of course I’m referring those feelings that society tells us are negative or bad: anger, resentment, jealousy, pride, shame, guilt, selfishness, and sadness.

I also hid any feelings that revealed my sensitive nature because I was taught that those feelings showed weakness and vulnerability.

The problem with hiding those feelings was that ALL of my feelings got diminished as well, even joy, exhilaration, excitement, appreciation, grat…

2021.04.29 Success Made Easy

Success Made Easy

Okay, that headline got your attention, right? We all seem to want that “magic bullet” or the 3 Simple Steps to Success or the 4 Laws of Prosperity. Maybe we’d even accept a 7-step process. What if it was 149 steps? Would we still be interested? What if I told you it was hard? How would you feel? Or maybe you already think it’s hard to be a success or to be happy or to actually live the life you dream about. After all, we all have bills to pay, right?

When I look back at all of the classes, sem…

2021.04.22 Penthouse

From the Basement to the Penthouse

I live in Spokane where it’s very cold in the winter. The house stays closed up during the winter, and when Spring arrives, the windows fly open and the house gets a breath of fresh air!

We all need fresh air and fresh ideas. Spring seems like it’s in full bloom. I love when nature wakes up from its winter slumber. It always reminds me to wake up from my slumber, too. I get to ask myself, ‘What have I been asleep to?” “What have I closed my eyes to?” “What wants to blossom within me?”

Yes, Spr…

2021.04.15 Tomorrow

The Truth about Procrastination

Procrastination Kills Productivity

No surprise there!

I’ve done my own survey and asked people why they don’t do what they say they want to do. I was surprised that the #1 answer was…………

alarm_clock I DON’T HAVE TIME! alarm_clock 

Okay, maybe I wasn’t all that surprised because that’s my #1 answer, too! This has been my excuse and I was able to point to my schedule to prove to myself (and everyone else) why it was true. I just didn’t think it would be such a common excuse. The funny thing is (and it’s not really …

Get Your Gratitude Juices Flowing

Recently someone wrote me saying this: “I hope I can recapture my ability to pursue my dreams but for now it feels more like survival.” Does this feel like you (especially now due to social distancing)?

When I read these lines, I was heart-broken. These words came from someone I have long admired for her entrepreneurial spirit and winning attitude. It came from a woman who was actively following her dreams and passion. In a way, she had been an unwitting role model for me.

Steve Jobs said, “Yo…

Do You Look for Signs and Coincidences?

Is the practice of ‘trusting the universe’ just another way that we choose to NOT make a decision? Is it a form of giving our power away?

Say Yes in this moment

You know how it goes: rather than making a definitive choice or asking ourselves crucial questions, we look for signs and coincidences that verify we’re on the right track. Or not on the right track. If things don’t work out, we can ‘blame’ the universe saying, ‘it wasn’t meant to be.’ But if things do turn out, we applaud our ab…