Beyond the Fog: Mastering Life's Uncertainties
I believe it was Emerson who observed that the only straight line in Nature is the spider swinging down from a twig.
The rest of Nature is a tapestry of twists and turns, ins and outs, and ups and downs.
And although we might say that we enjoy the tapestry of life, I think for most of us, we like it better when we can see how all the parts fit together. We want to know where we need to make turns and what decisions to make. “Living in the mystery” is a nice romantic notion, but not too comfortable for most of us.
It might go something like this: Imagine for a moment that you are cruising down a foggy country road at night. Visibility’s a joke. Your headlights barely make a dent in the fog and you’re inching forward like a sloth on a mission. Not only can’t you see past the front of your car, but your destination is also completely hidden from view. Yes, you’re moving forward (at a snail’s pace) but you’re stressed out, white-knuckled, and a bit cranky to boot.
You don’t care that you’re moving forward, you want the fog to be gone and the visibility to be restored.
Life sometimes feels just like that, doesn’t it? We all love those moments of certainty, where everything is crystal clear, but let’s be real – life’s not always like a well-lit highway. Sometimes it's more like driving on a dark, foggy road: you may not be able to see where you're going or how to get there.
However, when you are driving on that foggy road, you are 100% focused on where you are going. You might even turn the radio off in the car (because we all know that somehow our ears are connected to our vision and we can’t have any noise distractions 😊)
And this brings me to the point of my email today. Where is your focus? What are you contemplating?
The Wright Brothers didn’t focus on staying on the ground. Alexander Graham Bell didn’t focus on non-communication. Thomas Edison didn’t focus on the darkness of things. And Michelangelo didn’t focus on the absence of form within the marble.
What are you focusing on in a consistent manner? Wayne Dyer wrote:
“The way to establish a relationship with Spirit and access the power of this creating principle is to continuously contemplate yourself as being surrounded by the conditions you wish to produce.”
In other words, picture yourself already surrounded by what you want. As you focus on your aspirations, your energy syncs up with your desires. It's like cosmic matchmaking – suddenly, the right people or opportunities pop up, and the puzzle pieces start clicking together. Maybe you’re led to a book or a lecture or maybe you end up sitting next to someone that has the exact information you were looking for.
The fog is lifting, the puzzle pieces start clicking together, and then it’s time for action.
But wait! Is it the right action?
How is it going to work out? Will it be just like what you focused on? What if it isn’t the right action? Or the right time? You need more clarity before you take the next step. You need more information. You need to ask more people and read more books. What if it isn't as successful as you hoped?
Sometimes when it is our next step, we spend a lot of time trying to stop things from happening or changing. We're often caught up trying to freeze time or block change. All of our energy is spent on keeping things the way they are. But truth is, tough times nudge us toward growth. If you can dream it, you can do, be, or have it.
How? Ahhh - - there’s the rub. We always want to know how. If you write a book with the title starting with the words “How to” – it will most likely end up on the best-seller’s list. What if “how” isn’t the right question to ask?
I think a better question starts with “how much?” How much do I want the thing? How much do I want to experience the abundance of life? How much do I want to live life to the fullest? How much do I desire to have fulfilling and uplifting and nurturing relationships? How much do I want a job where I am appreciated and enjoyed? How much do I want to work for myself? How much do I want vibrant health? How much to I want to experience greater meaning and deeper joy?
FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR DREAMS AND DESIRES.
You were built for magnificence and greatness and abundance. You are a dreaming and creating machine. No one benefits if you stay tied up to the dock and refuse to set sail. Yeah, you might save a little money on gasoline, but think of the adventure you’d miss. And here’s a thought: WHAT IF YOU ARE THE FIRST DOMINO? There are people waiting for you. Your dreams are waiting.
Life's a string of small choices leading to big results, not a straight line from point A to point B. So, harness the power of intention, focus on your desires, grow those roots, nurture your inner self, and sprinkle love and gratitude everywhere. Trust me, it's a game-changer.
A ship in port is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for. And neither are you. You are built to experience this grand adventure called life. Your life. And it’s a beautiful thing.
Janet is a trusted guide and mentor who helps women move beyond the negative voices in their head so they can stop settling and and start experiencing the magic of their dream again. Bottom line: she helps people answer the questions "why am I here?" by guiding them to reveal greater meaning, embody higher purpose, and awaken to deeper joy.