It's Time to Get Riled Up!
I’ve usually made the most progress in my life when I was riled up.
You see, it’s easy to make excuses and not take any action when things are okay. I’ll sign up for classes and don’t implement. After all, things are okay. I’ll read the books but not do the exercises. After all, things are okay. I’ve stayed in jobs and relationships because I told myself that things weren’t that bad.
Wrong. Wrong. Wrong.
I don’t want a life that’s just okay. I don’t want a job or a relationship that’s good enough. I want more. I’ll bet you do, too. And nowadays, I expect more. I demand more. But that wasn’t always the case.
I was really good at hiding, burying, or ignoring my feelings, especially the ones that made me feel uncomfortable. You know those thoughts that told me I didn’t deserve success, that I wasn’t good enough, that I needed to be more in order to manifest my desires. And my ideas of how I was deficient refused to go away no matter how hard I tried to erase them or bury them. I just knew there was something wrong with me and that everyone else knew the secret.
I believed the sayings, “fake it ‘till you make it” and “act as if.” So I faked confidence and happiness, but inside I felt like a fraud and was dissatisfied. I acted as if I was fulfilled and carefree, but inside I was empty and angry.
Angry at myself for living a life. Angry at myself for not trusting my own brilliance. Angry at myself because I was trying to be like everyone else. Angry at myself for not speaking what was true for me.
And I wondered …
- I wondered how long I could fake it and still feel authentic
- I wondered how I could let people in when I had built these walls with nothing but smiley faces.
- I wondered who I could talk to about this
- I wondered what people would think
- I wondered if I was losing my mind
- I wondered if everything I believed and taught was just a sham
That’s a lot of wondering.
One the one hand, I longed to be authentic and real; on the other hand, I believed that I could only create what I wanted if I was vibrating at a high level. And let’s face it, I wasn’t always vibrating at a high level.
So, I finally let myself feel my feelings. I allowed myself to sit and just be with my frustration and anger. I got riled up!
And being riled up got me moving! It shook me out of my excuses and over-willingness to have life be ‘just okay.’ I finally gave myself permission to do my life (and my coaching) my way – not what the experts and self-proclaimed gurus said I should do. I allowed myself to be more vulnerable and open. I dropped my perfectionistic tendencies. I started having fun.
I’d love to say these shifts and changes occurred easily and effortlessly, but that wouldn’t be the truth. I was in a lot of resistance because I didn’t believe I could create something positive or have a breakthrough by being riled up or angry. But I did. For me, getting riled up got me out of complacency and helped me crush my excuses (and it still does, especially when I’m stuck).
Maybe it’s time for you to get riled up.
And getting riled up doesn’t mean you’re mad at the world. It means you are taking a stand – and making a demand – for what you want, what you deserve, and for who you are. And you mean it this time!
If being a doormat, never saying “no,” and lack of self-care isn’t getting you where you want to go, you’ve got to try something different. Strong emotions might get you moving in the right direction.
Go, go, go….
Say “YES” to yourself and take a stand for yourself.
Janet is a transformational coach who helps women move beyond the negative voices in their head so they can unleash their purpose, unmask their self-confidence, and uncover possibilities that they have been blind to. Bottom line: she helps them to stop settling, start soaring, and experience the magic of their dreams again.
And that’s what living an aligned life is all about!