Do you ever ask yourself, "What's the meaning of life?" Or how about "What's my purpose?" Or even "Why am I here?"
I’ve asked myself those questions many times. In fact, I even asked others those questions as well. When I would ask those questions of my former husband, he’s would reply simply, “Janet, you think too much.” Boy, that answer was most definitely what I did NOT want to hear.
As I reflect back, I would ask myself those questions (in one form or another) when I was feeling unfulfilled, unloved, unhappy, empty, without joy or purpose, wandering, hollow, disconnected, and lost. As a Buddhist might put it, I was ‘suffering.’ I was searching for more meaning, more aliveness, more purpose, or more joy.
Have you ever felt that way? Have you ever asked those types of questions?
For me, I’ve come to realize that those are the wrong questions. I was trying to find answers from my intellect. And an intellectual understanding really wasn’t what I was after, although I didn’t realize it at the time. I wasn’t looking for meaning at an intellectual or philosophical level; I wanted to ‘feel’ fulfilled, ‘feel’ like I had a purpose, ‘feel’ joy, ‘feel’ connected to my passion.
When we try and find meaning as an intellectual understanding, we won't get the internal satisfaction or the full experience and joy we are seeking.
Things shifted for me when I stopped asking those questions and just started to be present with the disconnect, the dissatisfaction, and the longing and allowed my heart to answer instead of my head. How amazing is that?
So, when you’re feeling discontent or dissatisfied and are seeking the meaning or purpose of your life, instead of asking the questions from above, consider asking instead:
Maybe the answers to these questions will help you find a missing piece of ‘heart’ because the answers are inside - - always. Sometimes we just don't have any practice looking.
And if you need help looking or would like more questions to ask yourself, reach out to me or schedule some time on my calendar with a free Get Acquainted Call. I’m here to serve.
Janet works with women who struggle with putting everyone else first, settling, playing small, and not following their dreams. She helps them move beyond the negative voices in their head so they can unleash their purpose, unmask their brilliance, and uncover possibilities that they have been blind to.