Krishna spoke to his people and said, “Here. I have a very special gift for you, the gift of joy, of happiness, of prosperity. Won’t you reach out and take it?” “Thank you,” they say, “but we can’t, you see. Our hands are full of these sweet mangoes.” Krishna smiles, “Let go of the mangoes,” he explains patiently, “then your hands will be free.” “But Lord”, they protest. “We like mangoes. Why don’t you give us your present first, then we promise we’ll let go of the mangoes.”
What are your mangoes? What are your limiting ideas that you hang onto that you are refusing to let go of? What are the excuses you make that are blocking the flow in your life? Is it fear? Lack of self-confidence? Blame? Anger? Resentment? Guilt? Worry? Shame? Righteous Indignation? Judgment?
Fighting for your limitations or excuses is just not worth it!
Lighten your load by letting something go. Start small. Re-frame a belief. Do something different. Try something new even if you’re scared. Be open to a new way of perceiving something.
This is one way to see the possibilities of a life where you say ‘yes’ to yourself.
If I said to you, “you didn’t come here to be good enough, or competent, or mediocre - - you came here to be AWESOME,” would you believe me?
Sometimes we get caught up with what other people think we should do or how other people think we should behave that we bury our own essence to play by someone else’s rules. This is a losing (not to mention soul-sucking) proposition for us.
There is something that lights you up. There is something that turns you on. There is something that is meant just for you. You can call it your ‘secret sauce’ or your ‘super power’ or your ‘joy juice’ but whatever you call it, it’s imperative you do MORE of it.
In my life, I was ‘too loud’ or ‘too boisterous’ and I needed to tone things down. I wasn’t supposed to be a show off and I had to keep my ideas to myself and act like a lady. No wonder I swallowed my voice and felt like I needed to be a shrinking violet. Maybe my love of ‘bling’ is my quiet way of being loud and boisterous.
How do you measure your life?
Many of us measure of our life based on our accomplishments, accolades, and achievements. But what happens if those aren’t as plentiful as we hoped for? Do we then measure our life as a failure? Or hum-drum? Or mediocre?
Life isn’t only about the great and the grand, the big moments and the applause, the peak experiences and the victories. If we measure our life based on these things, then we are basing our life using someone else’s rules.
Life is beautiful and complicated; it is glorious and painful; it is breakthroughs and setbacks; it is confidence and questioning.
Sally Hogshead wrote, “Life isn’t meant to be tolerated. It’s meant to be savored, devoured, marrow sucked and lips smacked.”
1. Fall in love with the moments, either past or present, to re-engage and re-ignite your sense of wonder.
2. Savor your breakthroughs as proof of your strength, courage, and resiliency.
3. Appreciate yourself. You are a freaking supernova after all.
Do you ever ask yourself, "What's the meaning of life?" Or how about "What's my purpose?" Or even "Why am I here?"
I’ve asked myself those questions many times. In fact, I even asked others those questions as well. When I would ask those questions of my former husband, he’s would reply simply, “Janet, you think too much.” Boy, that answer was most definitely what I did NOT want to hear.
As I reflect back, I would ask myself those questions (in one form or another) when I was feeling unfulfilled, unloved, unhappy, empty, without joy or purpose, wandering, hollow, disconnected, and lost. As a Buddhist might put it, I was ‘suffering.’ I was searching for more meaning, more aliveness, more purpose, or more joy.
Have you ever felt that way? Have you ever asked those types of questions?
Are you still trying to figure out your life purpose? Do you think if you just had some clarity, you'd be able to move forward and live a more fulfilling life?
Your life purpose is a journey. It evolves and changes as you evolve and change. You don't write a blurb and then cross the 'life purpose finish line' and check it off your bucket list.
You purpose is already within you. Instead of chasing after it, let it find you. It's fun, it's exciting, and it lights you up. What are you passionate about? That's a huge clue to your purpose.
Get to know yourself. Get to love yourself. Give yourself permission to shine. And your purpose will reveal itself.
When you get clear on how you want to show up in the world; when you get clear on how you are going to use your talents, skills, gifts, and passion to make a difference; when you get clear on what you want to experience and what you will no longer settle for - the result is increased confidence and power.
Instead of apologizing for your big dreams, embrace them. Clarity is an important step and activates opportunities.
No more being 'wishy washy' - get crystal clear and expect opportunity to come knocking.
When you deny or de-value your talents, skills, and strengths you are actually denying and de-valuing the reason you are here.
You claim you want to show up, make a differece and 'play big' and the first step is acknowledging and accepting your brand of brilliance. It is who you are and you can't run away from it or hide from it. You may have tried, but everyone else around you can see your brilliance.
So, stop hiding and running. Take a stand and claim your purpose. Share your brilliance. And make the world a better place!
Do you feel like everyone else has a more exciting life than you? Are you frustrated or dissatisfied because you aren't more exciting, doing more, or going places? Do you have Facebook Envy? This can make you feel like you are like a 'wet blanket.'
When we compare ourselves to others, we have forgotten our power and our purpose. It could be that your path is a path of sacred joy, of enlightenment, or mentoring, of educating, of guiding, of connection - and that path looks very, very different from our more-exciting friends.
The 'badass' life isn't about excitement. It's about confidence and purpose and authenticity and sharing our gifts, talents, and wisdom. That may not look exciting, but it is far more rewarding (and important).
Another title for this video could be “5 Tips to Overcome Inertia.”
It can be a challenge to get started if inertia has set in. We get overloaded with excuses why we can’t move forward (not enough time, not enough energy, too many conflicting priorities – just to name three).
But we all know those are the lies we tell ourselves so we can remain securely in our comfort zone. The excuses we tell ourselves are just one of the many distractions that get in the way of living fully and sharing who we have come to be.
How do we go from inertia to momentum? I’m glad you asked! I give at least 5 tips in this video (not to mention a lot of fist pumps!!).
I had a great time filming this and I hope you’ll have a great time watching it. It’s longer than most of my videos, but well worth it (if I say so myself!)
The energy of desire pumps us up, fuels us, keeps us going, engages our passion, and feeds our soul.
So often, when we look ahead to the completion of our desire, we get discouraged because we think we'll miss the excitement that desire gives us. And then what?
What if the point was simply to experience the energy of desire? What if the attainment of our goal isn't what's going to make us happy and fulfilled? What if our happiness and fulfillment comes from the experience of excitement, of growth, of expectation, and of anticipation that desire provides?
Janet works with women who struggle with putting everyone else first, settling, playing small, and not following their dreams. She helps them move beyond the negative voices in their head so they can unleash their purpose, unmask their brilliance, and uncover possibilities that they have been blind to.