Let’s face it, I’m a Type A personality. I get a lot done. I love checklists (and I love checking off those lists). I am a high performer and a high achiever. And I bought into the hype that this is the ‘right’ way to be. And yet, even after accomplishing so much, I still felt empty. If I could just do a little more, then I’d be complete, right? Wrong.
Once again I found myself not tuning into my own wisdom. I was busy chasing some arbitrary measure of success and ignoring what really makes me ‘tick’ - that is until the COVID-19 self-isolation order. Oh sure, I have a daily meditation and gratitude practice, but I used that practice to recharge my batteries so I could get back to being a high achiever.
I was already veering away from the notion that pursuing excellence and high performance was the right path for me. But now, away from distractions like movies, eating out, plays, volunteering and all the other things I like to do, I had plenty of time for reflection and deep listening. And I was able to reclaim what seemed to be a missing piece for me - - a missing peace.
Being re-connected and re-committed to my own path, and listening to my own wisdom, is an unexpected gift I allowed to flow in during these ‘interesting’ times.
What gifts have you received from ‘sheltering in place?’
Committing yourself to traveling your own patch is one way to see the possibilities of a life where you say ‘yes’ to yourself.
My initial response to that question is a very loud 'NOOOOO.' Of course, I'd rather be good. I want to be recognized for my talent, my work, my contribution, and my brilliance. I don't want to rely on luck!
But what if luck wasn't luck at all, but mindset? A mindset that your work is recognized for the gift it is. A mindset that things always work out for the best. A mindset that you are in the right place at the right time - - and with the results you want.
It might look like luck, but is it?
Devaluing yourself blocks the flow of all forms of prosperity: money, relationships, creativity, health, and spiritual enrichment.
The simple fact is that we can’t feel prosperous while we are also experiencing the effects of devaluing ourselves. We can’t be settling for less and expect to experience increase. We can’t tolerate crumbs and expect the entire loaf.
And yet when we refuse to climb out of our comfort zone, that is exactly what we are doing. We need to do something to shake ourselves out of boredom, settling, and playing it safe.
In this video, I share a song that woke me up from a financial slumber a number of years ago. Maybe you can create your own song!
It can be exhausting pushing all the time. We push ahead toward our goals and toward manifesting our desires. We focus, get down to business, and get 'er done. However, this type of push energy isn't sustainable and then when we get tired of pushing, we might feel guilt or shame becasue we think we're failures.
The balance to 'push energy' is 'pull energy' and both are needed for this journey called life. Pull energy allows us to tune in and deterime our next inspired step. Pull energy allows for the twists and turns and ups and downs of our journey, knowing we are headed in the right direction. 'Pull energy' is not necessarily easy and effortless, but it is flowing.
Push energy can give you some traction, it can help get you started, and you can sustain what you start with Pull Energy.
How can you use both Push Energy and Pull Energy to move forward in the direction of your dreams?
Is there a gap between where you are and where you want to be? If so, something needs to happen to close that gap. A shift needs to take place, either in our thinking, our feeling, our speaking, or our behavior (or maybe in all of them!)
If pretending that everything is wonderful isn't working or if 'faking it' isn't working or even if 'acting as if' isn't working, maybe it's time to actually look at what isn't working and make a shift!
Ignoring our limiting thinking or our sabotaging behaviors will not make them disappear. We need awareness so we can make the shift we need to close the gap between where we are and where we want to be.
Yeah, it doesn't sound fun to me either. But hey, shift happens!
We get so attached to the excuses we tell ourselves (and others) as to why we’re not taking action to move us into our zone of brilliance on our way to living our badass life that we actually start to believe that our excuses are the truth, and not just words that keep us in our comfort zone.
Well, I’m not different. My ‘go-to’ excuse is that “I don’t have enough time.” I love it. It sounds logical and reasonable to my ears. And I can back it up with facts and data so no one can argue with me.
Luckily for me, I have a few people in my life that don’t let me get away with my excuses. They don’t want me to stay comfortable and safe; they want me to soar and explode into my brilliance (just like I want for you).
But thinking about doing even more seemed exhausting. I knew I needed balance, but my excuses kept getting in the way.
Until my road trip.
Time to unwind. Time away from technology. Time away from doing and accomplishing all the time. Time for self-reflection. Time for enjoyment. Time for hours and hours of just being in the moment.
I am now full of ‘Re’s’ – re-vitalized, re-engaged, re-invigorated, re-energized, re-connected, and re-committed.
You don’t need a road trip. Maybe you just need some time for yourself. Time for some pleasure and enjoyment, and yes, even time away from technology.
Another title for this video could be “5 Tips to Overcome Inertia.”
It can be a challenge to get started if inertia has set in. We get overloaded with excuses why we can’t move forward (not enough time, not enough energy, too many conflicting priorities – just to name three).
But we all know those are the lies we tell ourselves so we can remain securely in our comfort zone. The excuses we tell ourselves are just one of the many distractions that get in the way of living fully and sharing who we have come to be.
How do we go from inertia to momentum? I’m glad you asked! I give at least 5 tips in this video (not to mention a lot of fist pumps!!).
I had a great time filming this and I hope you’ll have a great time watching it. It’s longer than most of my videos, but well worth it (if I say so myself!)
The energy of desire pumps us up, fuels us, keeps us going, engages our passion, and feeds our soul.
So often, when we look ahead to the completion of our desire, we get discouraged because we think we'll miss the excitement that desire gives us. And then what?
What if the point was simply to experience the energy of desire? What if the attainment of our goal isn't what's going to make us happy and fulfilled? What if our happiness and fulfillment comes from the experience of excitement, of growth, of expectation, and of anticipation that desire provides?
I love the inner work, but there comes a time when we need take action.
Visualization, meditation, journaling, attending Mastermind groups, coaching, and classes are not enough. We need some inspired action. Unfortunately, we let excuses get in the way.
In this video I give you an easy process to help identify limiting and self-sabotaging beliefs and a quick way to help overcome those fears that keep you stuck. And just because it’s easy, doesn’t mean it doesn’t work.
Let me know what strategies you come up with to crush, bury, cancel, overcome (you get the idea) that pesky inner critic. Your strategy just may help someone else. Wouldn’t that be badass?
Henry David Thoreau wrote, “It’s not enough to be busy; so are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?
Are we so busy that we don’t pay attention to our life? Is our busy-ness an excuse not to move forward in the direction of our goals, dreams, visions, or desires?
What if busy-ness was masking other traits like inertia, weakness, or fear? What if we are making ourselves busy so we don’t have to plan, strategize, commit, be disciplined, and so it seems like we have a legitimate way to stay in our comfort zone.
After all, we don’t have time to peek into our possibility zone when we are busy with the urgent matters that take up all of our day-to-day lives.
What if our busy-ness is just a cover-up?
Time to ‘get naked’ and explore what your badass self looks like. Methinks it looks pretty darn good.
Janet works with women who struggle with putting everyone else first, settling, playing small, and not following their dreams. She helps them move beyond the negative voices in their head so they can unleash their purpose, unmask their brilliance, and uncover possibilities that they have been blind to.