Can we identify ourselves by our true nature or are we doomed to judge ourselves by our appearance, or our lifestyle,or our careers, or our looks, or what’s going on in the world around us? We always have a choice at how we respond to any situation. We don’t have to be at the mercy of events and situations. We are the creators of our own experience.
There’s a lot of talk about being contagious right now and the need to social distancing (and it is really physical distancing; we are actually socially connecting more and more). But we can be contagious in other ways. We can be contagious in our joy, in our outlook, in our attitude, in our compassion, and in our resiliency.
Of course, we can also be contagious in our anxiety, fear-mongering, blaming, and depression. Which do you choose?
Choose you! Always choose you! You are enough. You are complete. You are loved. You are amazing.
Jim Rohn is often quoted as saying: You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. If this is true, would that be good news or bad news for you?
I don’t know if this statement is true, but I will agree that the people we surround ourselves with have a big influence on our lives. If you surround yourself with those who are frustrated, dissatisfied, fearful, worried all the time, complainers, and people pleasers then they bring those aspects out in you because that’s what they want to talk about. You commiserate with them. They trigger the areas in your own life where you are frustrated, dissatisfied, or fearful. You get to be on the same wavelength together.
But do you want to stay there? Probably not.
Maybe you’re ready to start thriving. Maybe you’re ready to crush your excuses and begin to design a life of purpose and meaning. Maybe you want to find more supportive people but don’t know how or where to find them. Maybe you need some help to get unstuck from your stories.
I can see a huge difference in the quality of my life between a couple of years ago and now since I made a shift in those I surround myself with. I speak about that in the video.
I have a couple of opportunities coming up and I hope you’ll join me in one (or more) of them.
When you get clear on how you want to show up in the world; when you get clear on how you are going to use your talents, skills, gifts, and passion to make a difference; when you get clear on what you want to experience and what you will no longer settle for - the result is increased confidence and power.
Instead of apologizing for your big dreams, embrace them. Clarity is an important step and activates opportunities.
No more being 'wishy washy' - get crystal clear and expect opportunity to come knocking.
It can be exhausting pushing all the time. We push ahead toward our goals and toward manifesting our desires. We focus, get down to business, and get 'er done. However, this type of push energy isn't sustainable and then when we get tired of pushing, we might feel guilt or shame becasue we think we're failures.
The balance to 'push energy' is 'pull energy' and both are needed for this journey called life. Pull energy allows us to tune in and deterime our next inspired step. Pull energy allows for the twists and turns and ups and downs of our journey, knowing we are headed in the right direction. 'Pull energy' is not necessarily easy and effortless, but it is flowing.
Push energy can give you some traction, it can help get you started, and you can sustain what you start with Pull Energy.
How can you use both Push Energy and Pull Energy to move forward in the direction of your dreams?
We often get complacent when things are going well. We forget our path, our purpose, our calling. Sometimes we need a wake-up call to remember who we are and what we are here to do. And yes, sometimes those wake-up calls look like we are walking into walls or falling to the ground.
Why do we do that? Why can't we just take inspired action without having pain or discomfort be the motivator? I don't answer that question in the video, but do you ever wonder why?
It might be enough just to look at our challenges and problems as wake-up calls and not a reason for our negative self-talk to kick into high gear.
This video was inspired by a poem I was introduced to last Saturday. The poem is by Rabbi Yael Levy from the Institute for Jewish Spirituality and I start the video with the poem. It was a great reminder about not getting discouraged because things aren't going our way and we encounter challenges - but maybe these struggles are messengers in disguise.
We get so attached to the excuses we tell ourselves (and others) as to why we’re not taking action to move us into our zone of brilliance on our way to living our badass life that we actually start to believe that our excuses are the truth, and not just words that keep us in our comfort zone.
Well, I’m not different. My ‘go-to’ excuse is that “I don’t have enough time.” I love it. It sounds logical and reasonable to my ears. And I can back it up with facts and data so no one can argue with me.
Luckily for me, I have a few people in my life that don’t let me get away with my excuses. They don’t want me to stay comfortable and safe; they want me to soar and explode into my brilliance (just like I want for you).
But thinking about doing even more seemed exhausting. I knew I needed balance, but my excuses kept getting in the way.
Until my road trip.
Time to unwind. Time away from technology. Time away from doing and accomplishing all the time. Time for self-reflection. Time for enjoyment. Time for hours and hours of just being in the moment.
I am now full of ‘Re’s’ – re-vitalized, re-engaged, re-invigorated, re-energized, re-connected, and re-committed.
You don’t need a road trip. Maybe you just need some time for yourself. Time for some pleasure and enjoyment, and yes, even time away from technology.
Another title for this video could be “5 Tips to Overcome Inertia.”
It can be a challenge to get started if inertia has set in. We get overloaded with excuses why we can’t move forward (not enough time, not enough energy, too many conflicting priorities – just to name three).
But we all know those are the lies we tell ourselves so we can remain securely in our comfort zone. The excuses we tell ourselves are just one of the many distractions that get in the way of living fully and sharing who we have come to be.
How do we go from inertia to momentum? I’m glad you asked! I give at least 5 tips in this video (not to mention a lot of fist pumps!!).
I had a great time filming this and I hope you’ll have a great time watching it. It’s longer than most of my videos, but well worth it (if I say so myself!)
I love the inner work, but there comes a time when we need take action.
Visualization, meditation, journaling, attending Mastermind groups, coaching, and classes are not enough. We need some inspired action. Unfortunately, we let excuses get in the way.
In this video I give you an easy process to help identify limiting and self-sabotaging beliefs and a quick way to help overcome those fears that keep you stuck. And just because it’s easy, doesn’t mean it doesn’t work.
Let me know what strategies you come up with to crush, bury, cancel, overcome (you get the idea) that pesky inner critic. Your strategy just may help someone else. Wouldn’t that be badass?
Henry David Thoreau wrote, “It’s not enough to be busy; so are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?
Are we so busy that we don’t pay attention to our life? Is our busy-ness an excuse not to move forward in the direction of our goals, dreams, visions, or desires?
What if busy-ness was masking other traits like inertia, weakness, or fear? What if we are making ourselves busy so we don’t have to plan, strategize, commit, be disciplined, and so it seems like we have a legitimate way to stay in our comfort zone.
After all, we don’t have time to peek into our possibility zone when we are busy with the urgent matters that take up all of our day-to-day lives.
What if our busy-ness is just a cover-up?
Time to ‘get naked’ and explore what your badass self looks like. Methinks it looks pretty darn good.
Are you fully engaged in life? In your life? Is there something you should be doing, feeling, saying, or being? Do you show up in all of your brilliance and genius? Or do you play it safe?
I had a great learning lesson last week when my daughter and I were in the front row for a comedy show. Being in the front row meant being highly visible to the performer. And being highly visible meant being more engaged than normal.
Laughing louder. Clapping harder. Cheering with more enthusiasm.
If we were sitting in the back, we would have been less engaged and stayed much more in our comfort zone. And although that may be more comfortable, it’s definitely not as much fun!
Join me in living life front a ‘front row’ mindset.
Janet works with women who struggle with putting everyone else first, settling, playing small, and not following their dreams. She helps them move beyond the negative voices in their head so they can unleash their purpose, unmask their brilliance, and uncover possibilities that they have been blind to.