Can we identify ourselves by our true nature or are we doomed to judge ourselves by our appearance, or our lifestyle,or our careers, or our looks, or what’s going on in the world around us? We always have a choice at how we respond to any situation. We don’t have to be at the mercy of events and situations. We are the creators of our own experience.
There’s a lot of talk about being contagious right now and the need to social distancing (and it is really physical distancing; we are actually socially connecting more and more). But we can be contagious in other ways. We can be contagious in our joy, in our outlook, in our attitude, in our compassion, and in our resiliency.
Of course, we can also be contagious in our anxiety, fear-mongering, blaming, and depression. Which do you choose?
Choose you! Always choose you! You are enough. You are complete. You are loved. You are amazing.
My initial response to that question is a very loud 'NOOOOO.' Of course, I'd rather be good. I want to be recognized for my talent, my work, my contribution, and my brilliance. I don't want to rely on luck!
But what if luck wasn't luck at all, but mindset? A mindset that your work is recognized for the gift it is. A mindset that things always work out for the best. A mindset that you are in the right place at the right time - - and with the results you want.
It might look like luck, but is it?
How do you measure your life?
Many of us measure of our life based on our accomplishments, accolades, and achievements. But what happens if those aren’t as plentiful as we hoped for? Do we then measure our life as a failure? Or hum-drum? Or mediocre?
Life isn’t only about the great and the grand, the big moments and the applause, the peak experiences and the victories. If we measure our life based on these things, then we are basing our life using someone else’s rules.
Life is beautiful and complicated; it is glorious and painful; it is breakthroughs and setbacks; it is confidence and questioning.
Sally Hogshead wrote, “Life isn’t meant to be tolerated. It’s meant to be savored, devoured, marrow sucked and lips smacked.”
1. Fall in love with the moments, either past or present, to re-engage and re-ignite your sense of wonder.
2. Savor your breakthroughs as proof of your strength, courage, and resiliency.
3. Appreciate yourself. You are a freaking supernova after all.
Have you allowed yourself to fall in love with a new idea? I mean, really fall in love? You know, where this new idea takes over and you can't stop thinking about it and dreaming about it?
This is what happened to me in October. And now, 3 months later, my new idea has led to a not insignificant life change for my daughter (for the better) as well as for me.
In this video I share what idea I fell in love with and how it seemingly came out of the blue (and look, I'm even wearing blue!!). I share how this new idea propelled me away from 'lack' thinking into possibility thinking.
I know that you can fall in love with your own 'new' idea and dramatically change the course of your life toward the direction you want to move.
It's time we stop settling for 'what is' and embrace the idea of 'what if.'
Are you still trying to figure out your life purpose? Do you think if you just had some clarity, you'd be able to move forward and live a more fulfilling life?
Your life purpose is a journey. It evolves and changes as you evolve and change. You don't write a blurb and then cross the 'life purpose finish line' and check it off your bucket list.
You purpose is already within you. Instead of chasing after it, let it find you. It's fun, it's exciting, and it lights you up. What are you passionate about? That's a huge clue to your purpose.
Get to know yourself. Get to love yourself. Give yourself permission to shine. And your purpose will reveal itself.
When you get clear on how you want to show up in the world; when you get clear on how you are going to use your talents, skills, gifts, and passion to make a difference; when you get clear on what you want to experience and what you will no longer settle for - the result is increased confidence and power.
Instead of apologizing for your big dreams, embrace them. Clarity is an important step and activates opportunities.
No more being 'wishy washy' - get crystal clear and expect opportunity to come knocking.
We get so attached to the excuses we tell ourselves (and others) as to why we’re not taking action to move us into our zone of brilliance on our way to living our badass life that we actually start to believe that our excuses are the truth, and not just words that keep us in our comfort zone.
Well, I’m not different. My ‘go-to’ excuse is that “I don’t have enough time.” I love it. It sounds logical and reasonable to my ears. And I can back it up with facts and data so no one can argue with me.
Luckily for me, I have a few people in my life that don’t let me get away with my excuses. They don’t want me to stay comfortable and safe; they want me to soar and explode into my brilliance (just like I want for you).
But thinking about doing even more seemed exhausting. I knew I needed balance, but my excuses kept getting in the way.
Until my road trip.
Time to unwind. Time away from technology. Time away from doing and accomplishing all the time. Time for self-reflection. Time for enjoyment. Time for hours and hours of just being in the moment.
I am now full of ‘Re’s’ – re-vitalized, re-engaged, re-invigorated, re-energized, re-connected, and re-committed.
You don’t need a road trip. Maybe you just need some time for yourself. Time for some pleasure and enjoyment, and yes, even time away from technology.
The energy of desire pumps us up, fuels us, keeps us going, engages our passion, and feeds our soul.
So often, when we look ahead to the completion of our desire, we get discouraged because we think we'll miss the excitement that desire gives us. And then what?
What if the point was simply to experience the energy of desire? What if the attainment of our goal isn't what's going to make us happy and fulfilled? What if our happiness and fulfillment comes from the experience of excitement, of growth, of expectation, and of anticipation that desire provides?
I love the inner work, but there comes a time when we need take action.
Visualization, meditation, journaling, attending Mastermind groups, coaching, and classes are not enough. We need some inspired action. Unfortunately, we let excuses get in the way.
In this video I give you an easy process to help identify limiting and self-sabotaging beliefs and a quick way to help overcome those fears that keep you stuck. And just because it’s easy, doesn’t mean it doesn’t work.
Let me know what strategies you come up with to crush, bury, cancel, overcome (you get the idea) that pesky inner critic. Your strategy just may help someone else. Wouldn’t that be badass?
Nothing we want is inside our comfort zone (don't you hate that??!!) and going outside our comfort zone doesn't give us the 'warm and fuzzies' and so we resist. But we still want our dreams, our goals, our passion, more money, greater health, greater self-esteem (you name it).
Instead of going outside of our comfort zone, we love to use affirmations that state "my [insert desire here] is coming to me easily and effortlessly" - but if that 'good' is outside our comfort zone, moving closer to it is neither easy or effortless. (Do you see the paradox here?)
I talk about this in my video below and in this article.
Trust me, I've been there and done that. I've turned away from moving forward because things became challenging. It wasn't easy. Silly me.
Sometimes we need to poke fun at ourselves. If everything was easy, we'd all be sipping Pina Coladas on our own private beach.
Moving outside our comfort zone means change and growth. It means we'll most likely encounter resistance and obstacles.
We have a choice to call it quits and think the Universe is giving us a message or we can persist in moving forward and moving through discomfort.
As Brendan Burchard said, "You know humanity only has two recurring characters in its narrative and that's struggle and progress. And a lot of us don't want the struggle."
I loved making this video for you this week. I hope you enjoy it.
Janet works with women who struggle with putting everyone else first, settling, playing small, and not following their dreams. She helps them move beyond the negative voices in their head so they can unleash their purpose, unmask their brilliance, and uncover possibilities that they have been blind to.