f you want to be certain that you’ll never face a challenge or find yourself in a difficult or challenging situation, then it’s really important to have tame and realistic goals and dreams. Goals and dreams that you know you can achieve with minimal effort and hardship. Safe dreams. Comfortable goals.
However, if you want to have any degree of excitement and experience real growth in your life, then you’re going to have to make plans and set goals that other people might label as unrealistic.
These kind of goals often come with a high degree of risk (as well as sexiness and satisfaction – and who doesn’t want that, right?) You rarely know how you are going to achieve them until you get started. And more often than not, the result you achieve will not be exactly what you set out to do in the first place.
Chances are, the people you admire the most had some outlandish dreams and set some unrealistic goals. And they had the courage to take those first steps, keep the vision, and persevere despite challenges and set-backs.
Oh, your well-meaning friends (or family members) will tell you to rein in your dreams because they don’t want you to be disappointed. Or maybe they’ll point out all the ways you’ve tried and failed in the past. Or maybe they just don’t see your strengths, talents, and courage (or maybe they do, but don’t want to be left behind.)
People will suggest you set some SMART goals: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timely. Boring to those of us that have inspired dreams and who are future visionaries.
Setting and pursuing unrealistic goals and lofty dreams is not always a walk in the park. You are going to face resistance. However, unrealistic goal setters tend to be happier and more positive people.
It’s okay to say ‘yes’ to yourself and your dreams. It’s okay to see new possibilities for yourself. In fact, it’s more than okay – it’s critical for your well-being and self-worth.
If you are being talked out of an exciting idea by someone who lives a boring, risk-free life, realize that if you choose to accept their advice and abandon your dream, you are also very likely going to create a boring risk-free life. And that’s not who you’ve come here to be.
If you want to keep your biggest goals and dreams alive and build momentum to start putting them into action, seek advice from other like-minded goal setters and get feedback that encourages you to go for it. Spend more time hanging around people who are less concerned with risk and failure and are more interested in living an authentic and fulfilled life.
Once you become an unrealistic goal setter, you will never look back.
Maybe you don’t know how to begin or maybe you’ve forgotten how to dream big. Or maybe you’re just scared. I get it. Taking action and doing something new is scary. If you need some encouragement and are ready to shift to what’s possible and re-discover yourself or your dreams, let’s connect. You can schedule your free 45 minute Say Yes to Yourself Strategy call at: https://janetkingsleycoaching.as.me/
Say yes to yourself by saying yes to your dreams.
Janet Kingsley is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients transform frustration to focus, confusion to clarity, and self-doubt to self-confidence.