Three Little Words.
I love you. I forgive you. Keep it simple. What’s your wish? Dare to dream. It’s not fair.
Those last three little words will stop us every time.
How many times do we use those three little words? Maybe we don’t verbalize them, but only think them. Does that make them any less lethal?
Okay, I’ll stop now before we all feel like killing ourselves!!!
When we play the “It’s not fair” game, we are moving into victim mode and telling ourselves that we refuse to accept reality.
Let me ask you a question. When was the last time that moaning, groaning, complaining, and feeling like a victim created anything joyful, strong, or beautiful in your life? When was the last time your ‘pity party’ mentality created something beneficial?
‘It’s not fair’ is not a powerful place to be. As my dad used to say, “The fair is in Pomona” and he was right.
What if life was completely fair and that everything that happens to us and through us has a direct correlation on what we believe and what we expect? Have we listened to the opinions of others or made judgments based on what we see? Is it our envy or jealousy that causes us to point fingers at others who are successful, happy, or living the life they love and we think ‘it’s not fair?’
We all encounter challenges from time-to-time and things don’t always work out the way we anticipated. But if it is so easy for us to feel defeated by challenges and setbacks by claiming ‘life isn’t fair’ then we are sticking our head in the sand.
Not only is it hard to breathe with our head in the sand, we can’t see anything but sand. We can’t see a way out or a way up. We can’t see a solution and we can’t find our joy or our power. And we also can’t hear anything when our head is in the sand.
We are stuck. We are frozen. We are in denial. Yuck! This is not a place we want to be, right?
This past week, here’s what I heard:
Sure, these events are unfortunate. They are discouraging. After all, who doesn’t want only good things to happen all the time?
The ‘it’s not fair’ game helps us stay stuck. It helps us pretend not to notice our dissatisfaction with ourselves and lack of commitment. It helps us deny our power. It helps keep us from looking deep within and finding that which wants to burst forth into creation.
As far as excuses go, those three little words are great. Maybe one of the best excuses to stay stuck that I know of.
But you are better than that. I know it and you know it.
It’s time to stop comparing and start living. It’s time to have the courage to face discomfort or displeasure and make a new choice. It’s time to acknowledge and move on.
Dust yourself off, shake that sand out of your ears, and start again.
Of course, if you’d like some help and guidance in shaking out that sand (or directions to Pomona) let’s chat. We can do this together.
Until next time,
Have some fun, stay aware, and rock on!
Janet is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients go from Overwhelm to Overjoyed, from Confusion to Clarity, and from Surviving to feeling unstoppable. Whether you want to grow your business or grow your self-esteem, Janet helps people believe in their own potential and transform their dreams into fulfilling, inspired, and prosperous realities. Janet can help you get the rapid results you are looking for.
Janet Kingsley is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients transform frustration to focus, confusion to clarity, and self-doubt to self-confidence.