We all aspire for greatness and success however that may look for us individually. We all want to be happy, healthy, and fulfilled. We all want to love and be loved. But some of us think that ‘greatness’ is meant for others and not for us (yet deep down, we wish it could be true for us as well.)
And yet, we all have that spark of greatness and genius within. We need to START to tap into it. But we need to STOP a couple of things as well.
Here are two things we absolutely need to stop if want to have any chance at all of achieving our own brand of brilliance.
1. Stop Asking Everyone Else
“If you were setting out to accomplish something and you had no role models to emulate, you could get a good start by looking at what everybody else was doing - and not doing it.
That quote makes me laugh at myself and stop and think at the same time. Luckily for us, there are plenty of role models we can emulate no matter what we want to achieve (thank God!).
And yet, even with great role models, so many of us spend a LOT of time asking everyone else what they think we should do. We even ask people who aren’t even doing it! Does that make even the littlest bit of sense? Uh, no. But we do it anyway.
I have a mental block (a ton of resistance) about identifying my niche, or target market, or perfect client. How much easier might it be to come up with topics and content if I made the decision to actually commit to a particular niche? Answer: A lot easier. But. I. Resist.
And let’s be honest. I know who I want to work with. But I want to get the language perfect. And while I’m busy ‘trying’ to perfect my language, I’m not magnetizing or embracing those people who are a perfect fit for me (not to mention those people who need me).
Back to laughing at myself.
Instead of trusting my own wisdom or even emulating a role model, I ask people around me, “who should be my target market – my niche? What about this? Or this? Or that?”
And you know what? The people I’m asking can’t give me the answer to WHAT I WANT? Is that silly or what? Not only silly, but not very smart on my part.
I have a dream, a goal, and a vision. And so do you.
But we need to stop asking others for their opinions. Especially those people who are not our mentors or living and achieving what we’d like to emulate.
Learning to believe in your own inner wisdom can be difficult. We might not be familiar with what our own wisdom even sounds like. But stick with it. You are worth it.
2. Stop Hanging Around With Negative/Toxic People
“You cannot expect to live a positive life if you hang with negative people.”
Toxic people are judgmental, envious, arrogant, victims, and just plain negative all the time. They are the ones that want to bring you down to their level. Their lives are mediocre and they are definitely not supportive of our success.
Unfortunately, some of these people we call family. Even worse, some of these negative and toxic traits live right inside our own mind! Ouch!
The people we hang around with should energize and inspire us, not deplete us. And we need to do the same for them as well, by the way.
If a friend or colleague of yours enjoys some level of success, how do you react? Are you jealous? Do you think they must have done something unethical? Guess what? We are the toxic person in their life.
We need to celebrate success and greatness where we see it – even if we are a bit jealous. After all, if someone we know can do something amazing and awesome, SO CAN WE!
Okay, that was a little side trip.
How much energy and effort do you think it takes to counteract the judgment, negativity, and envy if we allow those people to interrupt our dreams, visions, and goals? A lot. And that energy takes us away from living our greatness.
It can be a challenge to eliminate negative and toxic people on your own. If we are already surrounded by them, chances are we have already developed patterns of behavior that are not easy to overcome. But you can do it and you are worth it.
Of course, if you’d like some help and guidance in learning to trust your own voice and wisdom or if you'd like support in eliminating negative and toxic people in your life, let's chat (especially if you’re willing to laugh at yourself.) We can do this together.
Janet is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients go from Overwhelm to Overjoyed, from Confusion to Clarity, and from Surviving to Thriving. Whether you want to grow your business or grow your self-esteem, Janet helps people believe in their own potential and transform their dreams into fulfilling, inspired, and prosperous realities. Janet can help you get the rapid results you are looking for.
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Janet Kingsley is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients transform frustration to focus, confusion to clarity, and self-doubt to self-confidence.