Okay, that headline got your attention, right? We all seem to want that “magic bullet” or the 3 Simple Steps to Success or the 4 Laws of Prosperity. Maybe we’d even accept a 7-step process. What if it was 149 steps? Would we be interested? What if I told you it was hard? How would you feel? Or maybe you already think it’s hard to be a success or to be happy or to actually live the life you dream about. After all, we all have bills to pay, right?
When I look back at all of the classes, seminars, workshops, summits, and intensives I’ve spent time and money on where I was looking for the quick fix and the secret to making all of my dreams come true, I have to laugh at myself.
You see, neither my mindset nor my belief system ever changed in the course of a weekend or an all-day event. Well, it didn't change permanently in any case. And so the “magic bullet” and the quick fix eluded me. Undaunted, I still continued to look and long and yearn.
And I took action; lots of action. If there were steps, I took them. I was an attentive and obedient student. And I had success, but it wasn’t the long-term success I was looking for. It’s sort of like a diet where through sheer willpower you reduce your calorie or carbohydrate intake and voila – weight loss occurs. But, the calories and carbohydrates come back and what happens? Our success is reversed and we gain back the weight.
So, we trick our mind and not use the word “diet” and we adopt a healthy lifestyle and we make conscious choices and if we forget, we accept it and then continue with healthy choices. Simple, right?
Well, the same ideas can be applied to our success thinking. Maybe we have to trick our minds.
Take a moment and think of two goals or dreams you might have (or had). Choose one that you consider easily attainable and the other one you simply don’t know how you could ever achieve. An attainable goal could be buying something expensive even if you don’t have the money right now or learning how to speak another language. And the hard goal could be something like becoming a millionaire or quitting your job and following your passion and dream.
Do you have those two goals in your mind? Good.
You see, our own belief system informs us which goals are reasonable. And if they seem reasonable, we’ll take the steps necessary to accomplish them. We KNOW we can do it. Maybe we've done something similar before, we can see it being attainable, we can feel it being attainable, and we can sense it being attainable. Our mind doesn't argue with us (well, at least not too much anyway).
But the other goal? OMG, it’s just too hard. We don’t know how to do it. We want it, but we don’t really see it happening. After all, we've wanted it for a long time and we've not achieved it. It becomes a pipe dream or maybe we stop dreaming about it altogether. And then we settle for only small successes, but deep down we know we are settling and there is something ‘out there’ that we really, really want but are afraid to name it and claim it.
Because is just too hard. Because we think it too hard.
You’ve heard this a million times, and now you are going to hear it a million and ONE times: our beliefs get in our way; our beliefs complicate things.
We’ve all had success in life. Maybe we graduated from college or got a good grade on a test or learned to play an instrument or improved our relationship. How did we do it? One step at a time, of course! Maybe we had confidence in our ability to achieve and accomplish this. Maybe we were focused or determined. Maybe we had faith or passion. Maybe we had vision and clarity of purpose. Whatever it was, we had it and we accomplished it.
We already know how to be successful and we've had practice.
No “magic bullet” needed. No more workshops, seminars, intensives, or summits.
Quite simply, it is our belief system, our mindset, which gets in the way. It isn’t the process that prevents us from being wildly successful or pursuing our scary goals and big visions. We need to remember that it isn't as hard as we think and then take some consistent action. And not just one action and then give up.
How many of us (either now or in the past) have woken up every single morning and went to a job we didn't like, just to get that paycheck? Now, that’s hard and we do (or did) it. We take consistent action of setting the alarm clock, pouring our coffee, getting in the car, and driving into that J.O.B. Easy peasy (but maybe it is killing our soul, so that’s not so easy peasy after all).
Taking consistent action is the easy part. We are masters at that. Now, let’s combine that consistent action with a new belief that engages our spirit and moves us into an idea that nothing is too hard to achieve; if we can think it, we can achieve it (oops, I think I just gave you the ‘magic bullet’).
And sometimes we need help to start or to stay consistent. That’s okay too. We are forming new habits and patterns. Get a mentor or a trusted adviser. Get a coach or a MasterMind group. Help is usually just a phone call or an email away.
Do yourself a favor, take some action; be open to changing the way you think about things. You might be amazed at the results you get.
Until next time,
Have some fun, stay aware, and rock on!
Janet Kingsley is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients transform frustration to focus, confusion to clarity, and self-doubt to self-confidence.