I’m a late bloomer!
I spent 50 years trying to figure out my life purpose. I read books (some of which I still have). I took classes. I took self-assessments. I listened to others.
It wasn’t until I stopped chasing after my life purpose and simply allowed myself to BE that I realized that my purpose was within me all along. You see, it was ME!
Purpose is about embodying, and accepting, the story that is YOU. Being who you are and exploring who you are (and who you are not) unveils your purpose. And this adventure of exploration is a big part of your purpose.
You can’t get it wrong. You can’t fail your purpose. We tend to make things complicated; we think we have to figure it out. We mistakenly think our purpose has to do with impact, being a best-selling author, or being a change-agent.
But if you take the time to explore who you are, you’ll see that you are making an impact and sharing in a totally unique way. It’s just that you’ve probably believed in someone else’s ideas about fulfillment and purpose. Stop it!
So, you can’t fail in your purpose, but you certainly can miss opportunities to take more risks, to make mistakes, to get messy, or to get to a juicy and joyful experience of who you are and what makes you tick.
I’ve been on hiatus for the past four months in order to simply BE and feel into what makes me light up and where I can best utilize my talents and skills. I’ve had to tune out my own coaches and mentors who want me to follow ‘tried and true’ methods in favor of what enlivens me.
I’m going to begin offering short, low-cost classes. And coaching packages with 1, 3, or 5 sessions to be used within a 6-month period. And that’s just a start. I never want finances to be a limiter for anyone who comes to me and needs spiritual guidance, coaching, or help in crushing their excuses!
Ruth Bader Ginsberg (may her memory be for a blessing) said in a 2015 interview, “I would like to be remembered as someone who used whatever talent she had to do her work to the very best of her ability and to help repair tears in her society, to make things a little better through the use of whatever ability she has”.
Guess what? We ALL have our own talents and abilities and whether we are using them
to raise strong and healthy children, or volunteer, or donate food, or sign petitions, or heal animals, or pray for others, or are a safe place for others to share their innermost fears and feelings, or are a sponsor in AA, or anything else – when we use our talents in any way, we are living our purpose (no matter what anyone else says!).
If you’re feeling stuck or lacking clarity or feel like there’s something wrong with you, I invite you to let that go. These ideas may just be the catalyst to get you to explore yourself more deeply. Isn’t that an amazing idea?
You are a once-in-a-lifetime cosmic event! Wowza!
I know it can be scary to start – or even know where to start. Or how to start. I get it. Seeing yourself in a new way takes practice and you might need some help, guidance, or encouragement. If you’re ready to shift to what’s possible and re-discover yourself or your dreams, I can help.
Janet Kingsley is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients transform frustration to focus, confusion to clarity, and self-doubt to self-confidence.