"I am here for a purpose and that purpose is to grow into a mountain, not to shrink to a grain of sand. ~Og Mandino
So many women have the burning desire to know what their purpose is. As a matter of fact, I was one of those women years ago. I just knew there was some reason I was here; I sensed there was a greater purpose and vision for my life than I was living but I couldn’t see what it was. I read books, I took classes, I attended seminars, I took all of the personality quizzes (well, I still do that), and I even asked the opinions of others.
When I looked around me, it didn’t seem like other women were questioning their purpose. It seemed to me they were content, confident, and happy. I just knew there was a missing piece to my life and I couldn’t figure out what it was!!! I felt like there was something wrong with me.
On the surface, my life looked wonderful. I had a good job and I was successful and respected at work. I was a homeowner. I was involved in community activities as well as the PTA and a leadership council for the elementary school my daughter attended.
And yet, something was missing. I was filling up my time with activities trying to find the thing that lit me up (or maybe I was just being busy so I wouldn’t have time to get even more discouraged because I wasn’t feeling fulfilled, but was just going ‘through the motions.’)
Have you ever felt that way? Do you currently feel that way?
And then one day I stopped chasing this thing that was just out of reach. I’d love to say I stopped chasing because enlightenment had set in. No. I stopped chasing because I was tired. And frustrated. And disheartened. And disillusioned. And I hated feeling that everyone else knew their purpose but me.
So I let go. No more chasing. No more reading books and taking quizzes. No more asking others. I just relaxed into what I was already doing. I thought I had ‘settled’ into the idea that finding my purpose wasn’t in the cards for me and I had to learn to be okay with that. *sigh*
And when I stopped pushing and chasing, my joy and fulfillment and purpose found me. It was right under my nose all along. Of course it was. And yours is too.
I just didn’t value the thing that ‘turned me on.’ Those little things that come easy to me I simply took for granted. I didn’t realize it was part of my purpose.
Often, our purpose is right under our nose. What do you love to talk about? What are your hobbies? What have other people told you that you were good at? What did you get in trouble for when you were young? What is so freaking easy for you that you think “if I can do it, anyone can do it”?
Whatever that is, do more of it. And see where it takes you. Stop denying your talents and gifts. You have wisdom, guidance, and insight to share. So share it already. Help people discover and learn what you can teach. Reading, traveling, crafting, cooking, or even organizing can be transformed into a great and wonderful and fulfilling purpose if we can stop thinking small and moving into our possibilities.
So tell me, what do you love to do?
And if you are ready to shift to what’s possible and discover the badass powerhouse that’s been hiding out for too long, I’d love to support you.
Janet Kingsley is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients transform frustration to focus, confusion to clarity, and self-doubt to self-confidence.