Do you consider yourself ambitious?
In 2015, Goldie Hawn presented Reese Witherspoon with an award for her work creating stronger roles for women in film at Glamour’s Women of the Year Awards. Reese had this to say, “I want everybody to close their eyes and think of a dirty word, like a really dirty word. Now open your eyes. Was any of your words ambition? I didn't think so. See, I just kind of started wondering lately why female ambition is a trait that people are so afraid of. Why do people have prejudiced opinions about women who accomplish things? Why is that perceived as a negative?”
March 8 was ‘International Women’s Day’ and it’s a day to celebrate women’s achievement. I think it’s a day to celebrate your own achievement as well. It’s time to stand tall and proud and embrace all that you’ve accomplished. In the workplace. In the kitchen. In the sewing room. In the classroom. In the boardroom (and maybe even in the bedroom!).
As women, we’ve learned to bury our talents and accomplishments. It’s easy for us to deflect and deny. We don’t want to appear too confident. Or too bossy. Or too self-assured. Or too opinionated. Or too passionate. Or too educated.
So we underestimate ourselves. We devalue ourselves.
The world tells women:
And because we’ve bought into this messaging, the effect on women (and maybe on you) is troubling.
We feel insignificant, and inauthentic, and insecure, and unworthy, and ignored, and forgotten. We experience impostor syndrome, and anxiety, and frustration, and disconnect. We fear competition, and success, and true empowerment, and speaking our truth. We wonder if we’ll ever make a difference, or leave our legacy, or find out what our life purpose is.
The International Women’s Day 2020 theme is ‘Each for Equal’ where we challenge stereotypes, fight bias, broaden perceptions, improve situations, and celebrate women’s achievements. Sounds good, right?
Challenging stereotypes starts with each one of us. Let’s be honest for a minute. If you see a women being confidently assertive, what do you think? What is your first thought? Are you celebrating her confidence and willingness to speak up for herself? Do you look to her as a role model? Or do you think she should mind her own business and not make a scene? Is she a bitch or is she confident?
We are all amazing in our own way. And we need to accept that and celebrate that. You don’t need to change anything or fix anything that you think is wrong with you. You are not ‘too…anything.’ There’s nothing to fix – only something to embrace (or something to unleash!).
It’s time to recognize your own unique specialness. It’s time to recognize that you are already doing so much right. It’s time to recognize your value. It’s time to recognize your brilliance. You are a supernova after all.
If you don’t know how to begin or if you’re just scared to start, I get it. Seeing yourself in a new way takes practice and you might need some help, guidance, or encouragement. So, if you’re ready to shift to what’s possible and re-discover yourself or your dreams, let’s connect. You can schedule your free 45 minute Say Yes to Yourself Strategy call at: https://janetkingsleycoaching.as.me/
Say yes to yourself by recognizing how special and amazing you are.
Janet Kingsley is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients transform frustration to focus, confusion to clarity, and self-doubt to self-confidence.