It is better to take many small steps in the right direction than to make a great leap forward only to stumble backwards.
Last week I wrote about a common challenge it seems that most of us have when we want to move forward in the direction of our dreams. I’m paraphrasing by saying we tend to ‘bite off more than we can chew’ and then we end up having to spit out what we bit off!
In other words, we may try to do everything at once. We see the big picture and we get excited and we go-go-go but eventually, our motivation wanes and we go back to our old habits.
My suggestion: start small. Baby step. Repeat this one baby step over and over until it becomes a new habit, and then add the next one. You can read the entire post how-to-manifest-your-desires-part-1.htmlhere.
So, even if we know the steps to manifesting our desires - visualizing, having at attitude of gratitude, meditating, journaling, increasing our vibration, being specific and clear, eliminating our mental blocks, etc. - we’re not always consistent in taking these steps, are we?
We get lazy, we judge by appearances, we let other people’s ideas and opinions affect what we do, we let our negative mind chatter take a front seat. And maybe we give up only to start again.
Our dreams and desires will not be silenced. Not permanently anyway. We can squash them for a bit, but deep down, we know they are there.
So, we know the ‘how’ of manifesting our desires. Our trouble is in the doing. Basically, I think it comes down to creating new habits that will build our manifesting muscles.
The success we get in taking consistent baby steps helps feed our need for rewards. I know we don’t like to think we’re as simple as Pavlov’s dogs, but we probably are. Sorry.
I think it is critical to focus on only one habit at a time.
This can be hard. Not only are we impatient, but our baby step seems so easy. And quick. And simple. And if we can do one baby step for one habit we want to develop, why not do one baby step for a couple of habits? Seems logical, right? Wrong!
When we try to change too many habits all at once, it’s sort of like multi-tasking. We don’t focus on any one thing and our results actually suffer. Maybe you try and take small steps for four different habits (learn yoga, meditate, listen to a daily inspirational video or talk, and exercise). Sure, at first you are filled with enthusiasm, but as time goes on, you are using willpower only. Something’s gotta give. Maybe one, two, or even all four new habits suffer.
Trust me on this. One habit at a time.
I’d start with the one that you think will give you the biggest bang. If you think that entering into gratitude more often will help raise your vibration, then start with 5 minutes a day. If you can do more, great. Maybe it is just 3 minutes a day. Are you going to write them out? Say them out loud? Just think thoughts about appreciation? Maybe you want to start or end your day with statements of gratitude.
Or maybe you think visualizing is your biggest bang. Abraham-Hicks suggests that thought reaches a combustion point at 17 seconds and if you can visualize (pure thought without any contradictory thinking) then you are on the way to manifesting. Maybe try for 10 seconds and work up to 68 seconds.
And – super important - make it easy on yourself by having everything you need at hand.
If you are going to journal, have it by the side of your bed. If you are going to do yoga, lay out your yoga outfit the night before. If you are going to learn to play piano, make sure it is in a convenient place. If you are going to meditate, make sure your meditation CD is already loaded up. You get the picture.
Richelle E. Goodrich reminds us: "Small steps may appear unimpressive, but don't be deceived. They are the means by which perspectives are subtly altered, mountains are gradually scaled, and lives are drastically changed."
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Janet Kingsley is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients transform frustration to focus, confusion to clarity, and self-doubt to self-confidence.