Comparison is a dream killer.
Not only that, but comparison is a thief of joy and steals momentum.
We think we need to be an expert before we get started. We think we need a lot of experience before we get started. We look around at others who are following their dream, making an impact, or living fully and when we compare ourselves with them, we may feel diminished, frustrated, and lacking confidence.
And it is hard to find your joy or get started when you feel diminished, frustrated, or full of self-doubt.
“If everyone waited to become an expert before starting, no would become an expert. To become an expert, you must have experience. To get experience, you must experiment." ~ Richie Norton
We gather evidence about the gap between where we are and where we want to be, and find ourselves lacking:
Years ago I was in a bowling tournament. I was a good bowler and was in two ‘scratch’ leagues (no handicap) and one mixed handicap league. I had two bowling balls: one for my first throw and the other one was for picking up my spare. So, when a teammate suggested entering the tournament I had the confidence to say ‘yes.’
But when I saw the hundred other people in the tournament, I quickly lost my edge. I was far behind the leader and noticed everyone who passed me in the standings: some were much older than me and some were much younger. I began to think I was a lousy bowler and a fraud.
But then I started to wonder how many people were behind me, doing their best and not bowling as well as I was. I began to wonder if those people were struggling even more than I was. I began to wonder if they were thinking the same sort of defeating thoughts that I was (or maybe even more so).
And I began to wonder if those behind me were looking ahead to me and wishing they could even be where I was in the standings. What a shift in my attitude and mindset that made for me. From shifting my focus to those ahead of me to those behind me. And I began to relax and enjoy myself. I began to appreciate my courage to sign up for the tournament. I began to acknowledge that I was ‘dressing up and showing up’ and re-defined my idea of success.
Where do you need to shift your focus?
What if those people who are behind you need your special blend and brand of expertise? Can you see how far you’ve come already? How can you begin to implement some of the ideas that are busting to come out? What if all of the degrees, diplomas, certificates don’t equal expertise? What if they just equal education? What if expertise comes after you take action? Are you willing to experiment?
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Until next time
Have some fun, stay aware, and rock on!
Janet Kingsley helps people believe in their own potential and transform their dreams into fulfilling, inspired, and prosperous realities.
Janet also works with business owners and helps them make a bigger impact by reconnecting with their vision and passion and double, triple, or 10X their business without selling their soul or losing their mind.
Janet Kingsley is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients transform frustration to focus, confusion to clarity, and self-doubt to self-confidence.