“There is only one you. Stop trying to devalue yourself by trying to be a copy of someone else.” ~Susie Clevenger
Are you devaluing yourself? Maybe without even realizing it?
Oy vey! I’ve got to move on to a happier topic!!
I’m declaring this month as a month to write about prosperity. And the simple fact is that we can’t feel prosperous while we are also experiencing the effects of devaluing ourselves. We can’t be settling for less and expect to experience increase. We can’t tolerate crumbs and expect the entire loaf.
But it’s hard to change and we love our comfort zone!
I got invited to join a mastermind group this past week (apparently I was invited over a month ago but I didn’t hear the invitation. I guess my resistance was an equivalent of earplugs). This group has been together for a few months and I was uncomfortable. I felt like an outsider. But I also knew that I needed to get out of my comfort zone and ask for what I needed as well as allow myself to be supported and encouraged. Of course, it also involved some straight talk about how I was hiding in plain sight and living smack-dab inside my own excuses (told in a loving way, of course).
OMG…it was an amazing experience.
You see, I am an amazing cheerleader for others. Part of my passion and purpose is to try and wake you up and shake you up to recognize and embrace your amazing awesomeness. To let you know that you are so much more than you know. To help inspire you to live your own brand of brilliance and badass. I live for that. And I’m good at it, if I say so myself!
But I don’t allow others to be a cheerleader for me. And I didn’t even realize it until this group of women pointed it out as I was dismissing the cheerleading they were sending my way. Wake up call, Janet! Okay, I got the message.
So, what does this have to do with prosperity?
Energy, enjoyment, and possibilities – that’s what. Days later I’m still flying high on possibility thoughts and possibility feelings. I feel unshakable and unstoppable. I’ve remembered my joy-juice. My conversations with others have been deeper, more meaningful, and way more fun. To me, that’s full-bodied prosperity.
This week, take a good look at the seven bullet points above. Do any of them ring true for you? If so, make a decision to change one small item. Perhaps the next time someone asks you where you want to eat, let them know your preference. And then acknowledge and appreciate yourself for speaking up. Or maybe this week you can resist the temptation to compare yourself to another or put yourself down or not graciously accept a compliment. Whatever it is, acknowledge your new behavior, appreciate your courage, and amplify your joy.
If you’d like help learning how to move into a greater sense of self-confidence or self-value, let’s chat.
Janet Kingsley is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients transform frustration to focus, confusion to clarity, and self-doubt to self-confidence.