One of my favorite stories tells about the renowned sage Rabbi Zusya who wept as he lay on his deathbed. His students, gathered by his side, were astonished. “Rabbi, why do you weep?” one of them asked. “If anyone is assured of a place in heaven, it is you!”
“I’ll tell you why,” the learned one answered softly. “If, when I approach the gates of heaven, I am asked, “Why were you not a Moses? I will answer, ‘Because I was not born to do what Moses did.’ And if the heavenly host argues, ‘You did not perform the miracles that Elijah did,” I shall tell them, “Those were Elijah’s miracles to perform, not mine.” My friends, the only question I fear I shall be unable to answer is: “Why were you not a Rabbi Zusya?’”
Every one of us comes into this world with a unique purpose. Just as there are no two snowflakes alike or no two fingerprints alike, our life’s journey and our life’s purpose is a personal adventure.
Never compare yourself with the accomplishments of others, because you are not supposed to be like them.
I have often wished I was different. I’ve experienced Facebook envy, church-size envy, coaching income envy, travel envy – and all of that envy got in my way and kept me distanced and distracted from my purpose and my joy. When I find myself comparing myself to others and experiencing this ‘envy’ then I’m trying to do life as someone else. Why am I not doing life as Janet Kingsley?
Are you doing life as you?
When I am able to take away the comparison then I realize that I don’t need to create a movement; I am the movement. It isn’t that I’m unfeeling, unloving, and cold; I am an open space to allow and accept all feeling and am a safe place for people to share what they may not share with others. It isn’t that I’m not successful; my definition of success isn’t based on external factors and what I can see (money, cars, houses, etc.) but rather what I feel and how I am impacting others.
It’s time I accept my gifts. And it’s time to accept yours as well. What is your unique point of view? Are you brazen? Can you claim your brilliance without apology? Without comparing?
If not for you, something would be missing. If not for you, someone who needed love would not have received it. If not for you, all the good you’ve done would still need doing. If not for you, someone would have no path to follow. If not for you….
Maybe you don’t know how to begin or where to start. If you need some direction and are ready to shift to what’s possible and discover yourself, let’s connect. You can schedule your free 45 minute Say Yes to Yourself Strategy call at: https://janetkingsleycoaching.as.me/
Janet Kingsley is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients transform frustration to focus, confusion to clarity, and self-doubt to self-confidence.