If you’re anything like I was, the idea of putting myself first was about as appealing as getting a root canal. My internal mind chatter told me it was selfish. And even if I was able to do it, how would other people react? After all, I’d been saying ‘yes’ for so long, I wasn’t prepared for any negative reaction. I was firmly planted in my ‘good box’ and there wasn’t any ‘no’ button in that box!
How about you? Look back over your life and see how often you’ve been expected to drop everything for someone else, let someone else go first, or have the bigger cookie. Do you feel entitled to say no or to quarantine your ‘me-time’ whether it’s going to the gym or having a massage or an early night? You might be feeling overwhelmed by the demands of others, or even resentful that people expect you to drop everything for them. And when you consistently take a back seat to others, your self-esteem suffers....big time.
Here are four good reasons why you need to put yourself first.
Janet Kingsley is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients transform frustration to focus, confusion to clarity, and self-doubt to self-confidence.