Whether you "settle" for less than you want in a relationship or in any other area of your life, the knowledge that you have compromised your heart and intuitive truth will consciously or unconsciously lead you to sabotage your own choice.
Settling for less is a form of self-sabotage!
But we may not be aware of it at the time. We think we are being polite, being a good friend, being a good spouse, or being an attentive parent.
We don't want to appear selfish or self-serving so we become super-willing to abandon our own dreams in favor of supporting someone else's. And then one day we wake up and realize we've been living someone else's life.
Has that ever happened to you? Boy - it sure has happened to me. In fact, I had a PhD in Settling! And I didn't even realize it. I thought I was being a supportive wife. I thought it was my job to make sure my husband felt fulfilled. I thought I was doing everything right, so...
Why was I so unhappy? Why was I a malcontent?
I didn’t realize that by saying ‘yes’ to everyone else I was actually diminishing my self-respect. I didn’t understand that by not paying attention to my own dreams, goals, and desires I was de-valuing myself. I didn’t realize I was betraying myself. No wonder I was unhappy and unfulfilled.
And my husband wasn’t demanding that I support him and his goals and desires. He was ready and willing to pursue them whether or not I was ‘all in.’ Deep down, I think I was hoping for some reciprocation – you know, if I did what he wanted, then he’d do what I wanted. But it didn’t work out that way.
I never got my turn.
And I wasn’t really good at asking for my turn. When I did, it came off as needy and whiney. That’s never going to amount to a win.
Here’s the rub. When we settle, even if we tell ourselves it is for a good reason, we know we are settling. We know we’ve compromised our values or our dream or our goals. And this leads to internal negativity, broken promises to ourselves, and a lack of self-trust. Next stop: self-sabotage!
We need to learn to make better choices –
If you’re ready for your life to become amazing….
You're ready for a life of prosperity
If you’re ready to let go of struggle and worry and experience the joy of a life of flow and ease….
You're ready for a life of prosperity
There is a lot of confusion regarding prosperity.
Is prosperity about making money? Yes, and no. Is prosperity about rewarding relationships? Yes, and no. Is prosperity about experiencing success? Yes, and no. Is prosperity about vibrant health? Yes, and no. Prosperity is about all of those things, and more.
Everything about this website and everything I teach, write, and record is meant to help you in reconnecting to you dreams, your self-worth, and your value. Everything I teach, write, and record is to help you reclaim your personal power so that you can rise above limiting thinking and embrace a life of magnificence and brilliance.
True prosperity is an approach to experiencing life where you can re-align with your dreams, uncover your passion, rediscover your talents, skills, and gifts, and tune into your value.
One of my favorite definitions of Prosperity is from Unity minister, Edwene Gaines.
If you need tools to help you recognize your goals, your passion, or your dreams….
If you need guidance on identifying your core beliefs that have allowed you to stay in your comfort zone….
If you have a feeling you need to take the journey within and are terrified at what you'll discover...
You are in the right place
Ask yourself – “Have I given away my power by:”
Whether you are looking to improve your personal relationships, find passion in your life, improve your financial situation, achieve a greater level of success in your work, improve the quality and vitality of your health, or really get to a place of love and acceptance with your body, I can offer guidance, action steps, tools, and techniques in all of these areas.
Believing in you and your possibilities.
Janet is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients go from Overwhelmed to Overjoyed, from Confusion to Clarity, and from Settling to Unstoppable. Whether you want to grow your business or grow your self-esteem, Janet helps people believe in their own potential and transform their dreams into fulfilling, inspired, and prosperous realities. Janet can help you get the rapid results you are looking for.
Janet Kingsley is an effective 'Belief Change Expert' who helps clients transform frustration to focus, confusion to clarity, and self-doubt to self-confidence.