Hello, I'm Janet. Who are you?
It takes an enormous amount of energy to try to be someone you’re not.
Your true self - your AUTHENTIC self - longs to come out and reveal herself (or himself) to the world. The downside of keeping your authentic self in hiding is that it ultimately results in pain: spiritual pain, emotional pain, relationship pain, or even physical pain.
Most of us spend our entire lives avoiding pain, criticism, and rejection. We think by pretending to be something (or someone) we’re not, we’ll avoid being vulnerable. We don’t make waves. We don’t rock the boat. We look for ways to be acceptable to those around us. We bite our tongue and don’t speak up.
Why are we so damn scared of being who we were created to be? Remember, you are a once-in-a-lifetime-never-to-be-repeated-or-duplicated-cosmic-event. Why do we try and pretend to be otherwise? What early messages did we receive (and ultimately believe) that keeps us stuck, small, and in a box?
Ultimately, if you spend so much of your energy trying to be someone you’re not, you’ll end up self-sabotaging yourself and burning yourself out. What sort of pain will you experience then?
Yes, it’s vulnerable and scary to reveal your heart and soul to the world. But it’s also one of the most courageous and healing things you can do. Our mind gremlins have convinced us that the scariness far outweighs any benefits. We project how other people will react or what they’ll say. Our projections are probably wrong.
You see, when you show up authentically, you give others permission to show up the same way. It’s just that nobody wants to talk about it. Nobody wants to appear vulnerable. Nobody wants to go first. But somebody has to go first. Maybe that can be you.
If you’ve had your heart broken, been abandoned, rejected, given up on yourself / your dreams / your gifts, or been made to feel like a black sheep, chances are good you want to belong. Some of us mistakenly try to fit in.
If you are a person who was designed to stand out - you are never going to fit in.
How are you trying to be someone different than who you are? Why are you trying to be someone different than who you are? It’s important not to let anyone else define who you are.
My ‘tagline’ is see the possibilities of a life where you say ‘yes’ to yourself. It’s time to say ‘yes’ to your brilliance, ‘yes’ to your value, ‘yes’ to your feelings, ‘yes’ to your passion, ‘yes’ to your vision, ‘yes’ to shifting your perspective, ‘yes’ to living authentically, ‘yes’ to being you, and ‘yes’ to standing out.
What else can you say ‘yes’ to?
Choosing self-care, self-worth, and self-confidence might take some practice, especially if it doesn’t come naturally to you. And maybe you’re feeling the nudge. If you’re ready to shift to something new, I can help.
Women hire Janet to design a life of meaning, fulfillment, and passion because most struggle with putting everyone else first, playing small, and feeling like a fraud. She helps them crush their excuses so they can move beyond the negative voices in their head and unleash their purpose, unmask their self-confidence, and uncover possibilities that they have been blind to.
Bottom line: You need to say “YES” to yourself to live the aligned life you were meant to live.