Janet Kingsley blends humor, inspiration, and encouragement with practical tools and innovative approaches that empower women to:
Are you tired of settling when you know you should be soaring?
I know what it’s like to live a life in neutral. I know what it's like to feel hollow inside. I know what it’s like to have forgotten my dreams, my potential, and my possibilities. I know what it's like to feel like a fraud, a phony, and not good enough.
I've always been a people pleaser and wanted to make others happy. My dad wanted to fly planes, so I went with him to the model airplane field, joined Civil Air Patrol, and took ground school training when I was a teenager. That was his dream, not my dream and I never asked myself, "What do I want?" My dad wanted me to be in business, so I went to college and got my degree in Business Administration. That was his dream, not my dream and I never asked myself, “What do I want?”
I thought the way to love and acceptance was to fit in and become what others wanted me to be. So,I became the dutiful daughter: a caretaker, a peacemaker, and a protector. And I tried hard to fit in with various groups at school, making sure my opinions matched those of my peers. I was a quick learner on how to be a chameleon and not voice my opinion because I needed to fit in and belong. At all costs.
Ultimately, the cost was my sense of self. The cost was getting detached from my own feelings, desires, and value.
I settled into married life at age 19 and I wanted to please my husband so I learned how to fish, how to shoot, how to play cards, and how to cook like his mother. That was his dream, not my dream and I never asked myself, "What do I want?"
I didn't have any mentors or trusted advisers to help me recognize my own brilliance so when I managed to venture out of living life in neutral, I didn't recognize it as my attempt at fulfilling my purpose or moving in the direction of my dream. I failed to recognize that my discontent and my constant questioning of "What is the meaning of life?" was the beginning of my journey back to myself. Instead, I was told over and over and over again not to ask so many questions and to just accept life as it was. I didn't recognize my entrepreneurial spirit or my leadership abilities, even when the clues were all around me, including:
Looking back, I can see these were my attempts at finding my passion and living my dreams. I wanted to believe in myself; I wanted to share my talents, and I wanted to create a safe place for others. However, without guidance and direction, I always came back to what was familiar and comfortable. I came back to living life in neutral.
After 23 years of marriage, I divorced my husband and began to ask myself, “What do I want?” I started learning everything I could about universal spiritual principles, about the power of the mind, about how our beliefs and emotions create our experience, and yes, about the Law of Attraction.