Jim Rohn is often quoted as saying: You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. If this is true, would that be good news or bad news for you?
I don’t know if this statement is true, but I will agree that the people we surround ourselves with have a big influence on our lives. If you surround yourself with those who are frustrated, dissatisfied, fearful, worried all the time, complainers, and people pleasers then they bring those aspects out in you because that’s what they want to talk about. You commiserate with them. They trigger the areas in your own life where you are frustrated, dissatisfied, or fearful. You get to be on the same wavelength together.
But do you want to stay there? Probably not.
Maybe you’re ready to start thriving. Maybe you’re ready to crush your excuses and begin to design a life of purpose and meaning. Maybe you want to find more supportive people but don’t know how or where to find them. Maybe you need some help to get unstuck from your stories.
I can see a huge difference in the quality of my life between a couple of years ago and now since I made a shift in those I surround myself with. I speak about that in the video.
I have a couple of opportunities coming up and I hope you’ll join me in one (or more) of them.
Devaluing yourself blocks the flow of all forms of prosperity: money, relationships, creativity, health, and spiritual enrichment.
The simple fact is that we can’t feel prosperous while we are also experiencing the effects of devaluing ourselves. We can’t be settling for less and expect to experience increase. We can’t tolerate crumbs and expect the entire loaf.
And yet when we refuse to climb out of our comfort zone, that is exactly what we are doing. We need to do something to shake ourselves out of boredom, settling, and playing it safe.
In this video, I share a song that woke me up from a financial slumber a number of years ago. Maybe you can create your own song!
Our greatness, when reflected back to us, can be overwhelming.
it is so overwhelming, in fact, that we often deflect or deny our greatness (or awesomeness or amazingness).
We don't see ourselves as others see us. We need to lean into the feeling of discomfort and denial and allow ourselves to feel - - and be honest about our discomfort - - and then we open ourselves up to actually receive the blessing of our greatness that is being reflected back to us.
Playing small and refusing to accept our greatness doesn't do anyone any good.
We often don’t realize the impact we have on others, even when we’re just being ourselves. Who we are matters and what we do matters.
If I said to you, “you didn’t come here to be good enough, or competent, or mediocre - - you came here to be AWESOME,” would you believe me?
Sometimes we get caught up with what other people think we should do or how other people think we should behave that we bury our own essence to play by someone else’s rules. This is a losing (not to mention soul-sucking) proposition for us.
There is something that lights you up. There is something that turns you on. There is something that is meant just for you. You can call it your ‘secret sauce’ or your ‘super power’ or your ‘joy juice’ but whatever you call it, it’s imperative you do MORE of it.
In my life, I was ‘too loud’ or ‘too boisterous’ and I needed to tone things down. I wasn’t supposed to be a show off and I had to keep my ideas to myself and act like a lady. No wonder I swallowed my voice and felt like I needed to be a shrinking violet. Maybe my love of ‘bling’ is my quiet way of being loud and boisterous.
How do you measure your life?
Many of us measure of our life based on our accomplishments, accolades, and achievements. But what happens if those aren’t as plentiful as we hoped for? Do we then measure our life as a failure? Or hum-drum? Or mediocre?
Life isn’t only about the great and the grand, the big moments and the applause, the peak experiences and the victories. If we measure our life based on these things, then we are basing our life using someone else’s rules.
Life is beautiful and complicated; it is glorious and painful; it is breakthroughs and setbacks; it is confidence and questioning.
Sally Hogshead wrote, “Life isn’t meant to be tolerated. It’s meant to be savored, devoured, marrow sucked and lips smacked.”
1. Fall in love with the moments, either past or present, to re-engage and re-ignite your sense of wonder.
2. Savor your breakthroughs as proof of your strength, courage, and resiliency.
3. Appreciate yourself. You are a freaking supernova after all.
Do you ever ask yourself, "What's the meaning of life?" Or how about "What's my purpose?" Or even "Why am I here?"
I’ve asked myself those questions many times. In fact, I even asked others those questions as well. When I would ask those questions of my former husband, he’s would reply simply, “Janet, you think too much.” Boy, that answer was most definitely what I did NOT want to hear.
As I reflect back, I would ask myself those questions (in one form or another) when I was feeling unfulfilled, unloved, unhappy, empty, without joy or purpose, wandering, hollow, disconnected, and lost. As a Buddhist might put it, I was ‘suffering.’ I was searching for more meaning, more aliveness, more purpose, or more joy.
Have you ever felt that way? Have you ever asked those types of questions?
Have you allowed yourself to fall in love with a new idea? I mean, really fall in love? You know, where this new idea takes over and you can't stop thinking about it and dreaming about it?
This is what happened to me in October. And now, 3 months later, my new idea has led to a not insignificant life change for my daughter (for the better) as well as for me.
In this video I share what idea I fell in love with and how it seemingly came out of the blue (and look, I'm even wearing blue!!). I share how this new idea propelled me away from 'lack' thinking into possibility thinking.
I know that you can fall in love with your own 'new' idea and dramatically change the course of your life toward the direction you want to move.
It's time we stop settling for 'what is' and embrace the idea of 'what if.'
Although many of us (if not most of us) think of ourselves as ordinary, normal, and (God forbid!!) mediocre, in Reality, we are anything but.
How can we be ordinary and common when we are so unique that there is not one other person in the entire world of 8 billion people exactly like us? That makes us quite uncommon (in my humble opinion).
Our challenge is to embrace that idea everyday. Instead of recycling the same old ideas we’ve had for years and years, it’s time to take a close look at how awesome and amazing we truly are. We can decide to become more than we’ve ever been before.
In this video, I ask you to consider four questions that will help you hone in on your uncommon, exceptional, and extraordinary life.
We know we need to let go of our limiting ideas so that we can embrace a newer and greater idea of who we are. We know we need to let go of excuses, resentment, anger, judgment, and self-criticism if we want to experience contentment, peace of mind, and opulence.
But holding on feels so good! We tell ourselves we’ll let go of our old ideas as soon as the new ideas take hold.
We are so funny.
We know life doesn’t work that way, but we continue to hoard old and outdated beliefs and opinions.
Maybe you can just let go of one limiting belief….and see what happens. I’d love to hear from you. Please comment below.
Are you still trying to figure out your life purpose? Do you think if you just had some clarity, you'd be able to move forward and live a more fulfilling life?
Your life purpose is a journey. It evolves and changes as you evolve and change. You don't write a blurb and then cross the 'life purpose finish line' and check it off your bucket list.
You purpose is already within you. Instead of chasing after it, let it find you. It's fun, it's exciting, and it lights you up. What are you passionate about? That's a huge clue to your purpose.
Get to know yourself. Get to love yourself. Give yourself permission to shine. And your purpose will reveal itself.
Janet works with women who struggle with putting everyone else first, settling, playing small, and not following their dreams. She helps them move beyond the negative voices in their head so they can unleash their purpose, unmask their brilliance, and uncover possibilities that they have been blind to.